Building Trust
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Building Trust
Trust is an emotion, the feeling that someone will keep their promises and do good instead of harm. It is related to but distinct from reliance, the action of behaving as if someone is dependable, whether or not the emotion of trust is present. Trust can be given, damaged, and restored. Trust issues may arise when someone has difficulty trusting anyone after a betrayal. This is especially true for survivors of trauma. However, many different causes can impair trust.
Consider that the loss of emotional trust may cause some complications, but the loss of practical reliance is likely to cause a great deal more difficulty in everyday life. It's unpleasant to get by without trusting people; it's almost impossible to get by without relying on others to do what you can't do for yourself, or without being able to gauge who is reliable.
Close relationships benefit from trust. Your behavior can build trust if you stick to honesty and integrity. Gentle touch also helps to create a positive connection. If you are working with abuse survivors, use extra patience in earning their trust. Much the same applies in gaining the trust of abused pets.
There are trust-building exercises for couples, which also work in other types of relationships. An excellent practice is tandem yoga, which involves two people. Here are some extra poses for two people. You can meditate on trust together. There are also trust exercises for groups.
Like any delicate thing, trust is easily damaged. An abusive person needs to rebuild both self-trust and trustworthiness to others. A person who has been betrayed needs to relearn how to trust others. Survivors of rape or abuse may find this especially difficult, and need more time. In this instance, asking rational questions may help clarify the matter. Different types of action aid in trustbuilding for different personality types.
What are some of your experiences with trust and reliance? What clues make you feel someone is trustworthy or untrustworthy? How do you deal with people based on your assessment of their trustworthiness level?
three_weeks_for_dw project (running April 25-May 15), I'm posting some content just to Dreamwidth. This is a good opportunity to seek new readers for your blog and new blogs to read, and to recommend stuff you enjoy on other people's blogs to help them make new connections too. Previously we discussed "Skin Hunger," "Touch Aversion," "Primates Need Touch," "Self-Soothing and Self-Control," "Compassion and Gentleness," and "Creating Safe Space." Skip ahead to "Healthy Vulnerability," "Coping with Emotional Drop."Building Trust
Trust is an emotion, the feeling that someone will keep their promises and do good instead of harm. It is related to but distinct from reliance, the action of behaving as if someone is dependable, whether or not the emotion of trust is present. Trust can be given, damaged, and restored. Trust issues may arise when someone has difficulty trusting anyone after a betrayal. This is especially true for survivors of trauma. However, many different causes can impair trust.
Consider that the loss of emotional trust may cause some complications, but the loss of practical reliance is likely to cause a great deal more difficulty in everyday life. It's unpleasant to get by without trusting people; it's almost impossible to get by without relying on others to do what you can't do for yourself, or without being able to gauge who is reliable.
Close relationships benefit from trust. Your behavior can build trust if you stick to honesty and integrity. Gentle touch also helps to create a positive connection. If you are working with abuse survivors, use extra patience in earning their trust. Much the same applies in gaining the trust of abused pets.
There are trust-building exercises for couples, which also work in other types of relationships. An excellent practice is tandem yoga, which involves two people. Here are some extra poses for two people. You can meditate on trust together. There are also trust exercises for groups.
Like any delicate thing, trust is easily damaged. An abusive person needs to rebuild both self-trust and trustworthiness to others. A person who has been betrayed needs to relearn how to trust others. Survivors of rape or abuse may find this especially difficult, and need more time. In this instance, asking rational questions may help clarify the matter. Different types of action aid in trustbuilding for different personality types.
What are some of your experiences with trust and reliance? What clues make you feel someone is trustworthy or untrustworthy? How do you deal with people based on your assessment of their trustworthiness level?
