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This poem came out of the November 6, 2018 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by a prompt from [personal profile] gingicat. It also fills the "blue bird of happiness" square in my 11-5-19 card for the Family Ties Bingo fest. This poem has been sponsored by [personal profile] fuzzyred. It belongs to the Mercedes thread of the Polychrome Heroics series.

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This poem came out of the March 2019 [community profile] crowdfunding Creative Jam. It was inspired by prompts from [personal profile] alexseanchai and [personal profile] librarygeek. It also fills the "mistake" square in my 2-28-19 Words and Phrases card for the Meet Ugly Bingo fest. This poem has been sponsored by [personal profile] janetmiles. It belongs to the Polychrome Heroics series.

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This poem is spillover from the April 2, 2019 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by prompts from [personal profile] pantha, [personal profile] ari_the_dodecahedron, and [personal profile] readera. It also fills the "language" square in my 4-1-19 card for the School Days Bingo fest. This poem belongs to the Officer Pink thread of the Polychrome Heroics series.

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Child abuse is 40 times more likely when single parents find new partners.

Children living in homes with unrelated adults are nearly 50 times as likely to die of inflicted injuries as children living with two biological parents.

FUUUUUUCK. O_O

Obviously, doing something that raises your child's risk of maltreatment or death is abusive.  But it is not reasonable to order adults to refrain from leaving bad relationships or to abstain from sex/romance after leaving.  I also don't think it's going to be very effective just expecting people to ignore a very potent if subliminal evolutionary drive -- it's quite common for animals to injure or kill unrelated offspring.  If that would work, we wouldn't be seeing these astronomical increases.  

I think the best solution is to build better relationships in the first place.  That is, return to serious courtship.  If you want to screw around, that's fine, but don't make babies while doing it.  First find a partner, then get married and make a home, then have kids.  Today, people often do it backwards.  That's not a great way to make a life, and apparently it's a great deal more dangerous to the kids than expected, beyond the usual heartbreak, upheaval, financial wreckage, and lost fault tolerance.  If people put in the effort to make solid relationships first, that would greatly reduce the number of kids living with unrelated adults, and thus lower the risks.
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Thanks to a donation from [personal profile] ng_moonmoth you can now read the rest of "Chewing Anyway."  Elisabeth helps Shiv find appropriate things to put in his mouth.
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You can now read the beginning of "Chewing Anyway."  When Shiv gets antsy at the Finn house, Elisabeth diverts him to a safe outlet for oral stimulation.  Now she just has to convince a very defensive teenager that it's okay  to put things in his mouth other than a cigarette.

This is the last of the pool from the half-price sale, actually locked at quarter-price.  It only needs $15 to complete.  Does anyone want to finish it off? 
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This poem is spillover from the January 22, 2019 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by prompts from [personal profile] ng_moonmoth and [personal profile] peoriapeoriawhereart. It also fills the "shopping" square in my 7-1-18 card for the Winterfest in July Bingo. This poem has been sponsored by Anthony & Shirley Barrette. It belongs to the Shiv thread of the Polychrome Heroics series.

Warning: This poem includes some intense content. Highlight to read the warnings, some of which are spoilers. It features anxiety, budget issues, insufficient clothing to cope with cold weather, choice paralysis, overwhelm, awkward conversations about measurements, tactile distress, data defensiveness, vulgar language, sticker shock, exhaustion, verbal abuse, minor panic attack, Shiv's crappy past, math angst, hunger, low self-esteem, and other challenges. If these are touchy topics for you, please consider your tastes and headspace before reading onward.

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This poem is spillover from the November 6, 2019 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by a prompt from [personal profile] technoshaman. It also fills the "grief / grieving" square in my 11-5-19 card for the Family Ties Bingo fest. This poem has been sponsored by a pool with [personal profile] fuzzyred. It belongs to the Shiv thread of the Polychrome Heroics series.

Warning: The poem itself is fluff, but the hurt/comfort background implies child and/or maternal death. If this is touchy territory for you, please consider your tastes and headspace before reading onward.

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This poem came out of the December 4, 2018 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by a discussion with [personal profile] aniustaluwis (Hikaru). It also fills the "minimum effort" square in my 12-1-18 card for the Summer in December Bingo fest. This poem has been sponsored by Anthony & Shirley Barrette. It belongs to the Polychrome Heroics series. It directly follows "The Heart to Rejoice," so read that first or this will make no sense.

Warning: This poem contains some intense topics. Highlight to read the warnings, some of which are spoilers. It includes an incursion from another dimension, attempted kidnapping, threatening a child, obnoxious high-handed behavior, vulgar talk in Faellyn, family drama, offensive offers to buy off Shannalyn with money, and other challenges. If these are sensitive issues for you, please consider your tastes and headspace before moving onward.

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This poem came out of the March 6, 2019 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by a prompt from [personal profile] redsixwing. It also fills the "dark alley" square in my 2-28-19 Words and Phrases card for the Meet Ugly Bingo fest. This poem has been sponsored by Anthony and Shirley Barrette. It belongs to the Officer Pink thread of the Polychrome Heroics series.

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Aging Alone

Mar. 7th, 2019 04:43 am
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This article talks about the increasing challenges of aging alone.

One thing it did not mention is wealth stripping.  Because most insurance doesn't cover long-term care and similar major expenses, and the government only steps in after every penny has been spent, a majority of people are no longer permitted to pass down their accumulated wealth -- if not children or other heirs, then a worthy cause they favor.  It's simply stripped away from them in a long, ugly fight for survival and transferred up to richer entities.  Only the wealthiest can afford insurance that covers such things; only they can afford care and still have anything left over.  Everyone else just gets robbed, unless they conveniently drop dead of something very fast. 
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This study showed that a hostile marriage correlated with leaky gut problems.  I'm intrigued because both of those things are boundary problems -- nasty fights come from not respecting each other's boundaries, and leaky gut happens when bacteria and other bits escape the intestines.  As above, so below. 

I note that the article included a list of foods associated with gut health, but said nothing about marital skills.  Learning to fight fair might improve physical health as well as marriage health.
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This poem is spillover from the January 22, 2019 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by prompts from [personal profile] ravan, [personal profile] wispfox, and [personal profile] eseme. It also fills the "Verschlimmbessern (German): To make something worse when trying to improve it" square in my 12-31-18 card for the Untranslatable Words Bingo fest, and the "On Grandpa's Farm" square in my 6-4-18 Mixed card for the Winteriron Bingo Adventure fest. This poem has been sponsored by a pool with [personal profile] ng_moonmoth, [personal profile] fuzzyred, [personal profile] mashfanficchick, [personal profile] erulisse, [personal profile] technoshaman, [personal profile] bairnsidhe, [personal profile] eseme, EdorFaus, and [personal profile] torc87. It belongs to the Shiv thread of the Polychrome Heroics series.

Warning: This poem contains some sensitive issues. Highlight to read the warnings, some of which are spoilers. It features angst, positive telepathic contact, an awkward reunion, ECR Boy is ambivalent all over the place, fumbling conversations about past and present life events, piecing together fragmentary memories, references to difficult past in foster care, tactile orientation, fraught reaction to photographs, sad and happy pictures of Shiv, funny family nicknames, privacy issues, past destructive behavior, alienation from positive feelings, past hunger, holiday issues, Shiv is not a joiner, confession of superpowers, past Family Services fuckups, might-have-beens, Precious gets upset over hearing about the Chyou incident, and Shiv blames himself, Shiv freaks out over being invited back into the family via foster care, Precious can't tell if Shiv even likes her (he does), and other challenges. Hanky warning! Parts of this poem may make some readers cry. If these are touchy topics for you, please consider your tastes and headspace before reading onward.

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Here's another piece of evidence that even a bad family tends to be better than none at all: eating together improves diet regardless of the family's level of functionality
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[personal profile] dialecticdreamer is hosting "Feathering the Nest" today, with a focus on nonsexual intimacies. Leave prompts, get ficlets! Boosting the signal earns you more words.

This is the point in the essay where I invite readers to sponsor stories, and use a bonus story as an incentive: if I earn $65 in tip/donations, I’ll post “Becoming ‘Ohana,” in four parts for easy reading, all at once. It’s the story of Mariset and Jules’ early friendship becoming a solid bond of ‘ohana between the adults as well as the pair of eight-year-olds.
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This poem was inspired by the story "Hello, Rachel Eastwitch" by [personal profile] dialecticdreamer. It also fills the "parent" square in my 5-1-18 Gimmicks / Roles / Characters card for the Pro Wrestling Bingo fest. It has been sponsored by [personal profile] bairnsidhe. This poem belongs to the Mercedes thread of the Polychrome Heroics series.

Warning: The backstory includes serious abuse.

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