Valentines Meet and Greet

[ysabetwordsmith]

I've been participating in snowflake_challenge, where lots of folks want to see more activity on Dreamwidth. While researching community activities, I came across the idea of thematic meet and greet events. That seemed like something which might work here, given a membership of several hundred people and a new theme each month. So I made one for this month's theme. It gives people a place to meet folks with similar interests, and to squee about the current theme.

Here is the basic outline. Fill in as much or as little of it as you wish, depending on your interests as they relate to the Valentines Fest.


Name: Whatever you wish to be known by.
Sex/Gender Identity: Share any descriptions you wish people to know about you, including pronouns.
Sex/Romance/Other Orientation: Who you connect with and how.
Find Me At: Your other blogs, services, or venues.
What I Love About Valentines Day: Favorite activities, traditions, decorations, stories, etc.
What I Hate About Valentines Day: Things you wish would go away, in real life or entertainment. Die, trope, die!
What I Love to Do By Myself: How do you treat yourself when you're alone? Self-love, self-romance, favorite sex toys, favorite snuggly things, places you like to visit alone, your One True Chocolate, whatever.
Heartbreak: Ways you enjoy breaking your characters, canonical breakups and betrayals, favorite fanworks about breakups, that time you got your heart broken, creative revenge ideas, horrible ex tropes, and such.
Romantic Favorites: Romance movies or novels, fandoms, tropes, etc.
Erotic Favorites: Sexyfuntimes in fiction, movies, art, or whatever. Slash all the things!
My Kink(s): In person, writing, or reading; favorite toys, pervertables, plausible deniability, kink-friendly fandoms, best kink scenes in movies, and the like.
Platonic Favorites: Nonsexual intimacies, situations. tropes, sex-free movies or books, ace/aro-friendly fandoms, and so on.
Favorite Blogs or Communities: Anything on Dreamwidth, or other venues, relating to the above topics.
About My Blog: A general description of your blog metaphor, what your blog contains, common formats / media, activity level, typical rating level, featured fandom(s) or original work, etc.
What I Create: Anything you make that relates to the Valentines theme or above topics; fandoms, formats, recurring motifs, and so forth.
What I'm Looking For: Things you would like to get from this activity; readers, comments, recommendations of fandoms or fanworks, new friends, wider representation of something, etc.


Feel free to copy this Meet and Greet into your blog as well as filling it out here -- you may catch some of the holiday traffic.

<br /><strong>Name:</strong> <br /><strong>Sex/Gender Identity:</strong> <br /><strong>Sex/Romance/Other Orientation:</strong> <br /><strong>Find Me At:</strong> <br /><strong>What I Love About Valentines Day:</strong> <br /><strong>What I Hate About Valentines Day:</strong> <br /><strong>What I Love to Do By Myself:</strong> <br /><strong>Heartbreak:</strong> <br /><strong>Romantic Favorites:</strong> <br /><strong>Erotic Favorites:</strong> <br /><strong>My Kink(s):</strong> <br /><strong>Platonic Favorites:</strong> <br /><strong>Favorite Blogs or Communities:</strong> <br /><strong>About My Blog:</strong> <br /><strong>What I Create:</strong> <br /><strong>What I'm Looking For:</strong> <br />

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Hello!

[ysabetwordsmith]

Name: Ysabet

Sex/Gender Identity:
Sex/Romance/Other Orientation:
This stuff kind of all goes together, metasexual, genderqueer, if you combine all the spectra I have enough to make a tesseract.

Find Me At:
https://ysabetwordsmith.dreamwidth.org/
https://ysabetwordsmith.livejournal.com/
http://penultimateproductions.weebly.com/my-work.html
http://greenhaventradition.weebly.com/writing.html
(WARNING: Flypaper for eyeballs.)

What I Love About Valentines Day:
Naturally colored pink to red foods and recipes for same. Taking extra time to invest in a valued relationship. Recs for hawt romance or nonsexual intimacy fics. I am especially interested in indie web recommendations for fanwork sites outside the main hubs.

What I Hate About Valentines Day: Society's tendency to pick on people who are not with someone at the moment, or ace/aro, or not with an "acceptable" partner or whatthefuckever. >_< Commercialism.

What I Love to Do By Myself: Read, walk in nature, cook, gardening (which at this time of year mostly means shopping with plant catalogs), crafts.

Heartbreak: I love stories where a good character has been dumped by an awful partner, or society, and someone else comes along and appreciates them and picks them up. Sometimes a soulmate isn't your perfect sex partner, but someone who will sit and be sad with you. Grief is the sign of a healthy relationship at the parting point.

Romantic Favorites: Enemies to Friends/Lovers, Odd Couple (or moresome), Polyamory, Slow Burn, Emotional Intimacy, Smat (nonsexual smut), Picturesque Locations, Interspecies Romance, Soulbonds, Sedoretu, Troll Romance

Erotic Favorites: Guys who know where to find a clitoris and what to do with it, gals who know where to find a prostate gland and what to do with it, alien/fantasy sex toys, Alpha/Beta/Omega dynamics, alien sex/genders

My Kink(s): kink in general, societies where kink is the norm, pervertables, gloriously crafted sex toys (seriously you should see some of the ones made of gold, semiprecious stones, or art glass: sculptures you can fuck), women on horseback chasing fleeing men through fields, power exchange, trust edgeplay

Platonic Favorites: Five Moments of Intimacy, Nonsexual Intimacies, Intellectual Foreplay, Teamfamily, No Such Thing as "Just" Friends, Squishes, Zucchini, orientations not based on sex

Favorite Blogs or Communities: 40sedoretu, 100quadrantedships, allbingo, birdwatching, crowdfunding, crafty, newcomers, goals_on_dw, dialecticdreamer, fuzzyred, nsfwords

About My Blog: I post almost every day, often several times a day. If you're looking for an active blog, this is a good bet; if you're easily overwhelmed, not so much. I post a lot about writing, some nature and current events, especially science news. I share my gardening and birdfeeding experiences, with photos in the warmer months. I'm an active supporter of crowdfunding and often link to other people's projects. My blog has folks from all over the QUILTBAG.

What I Create: I write primarily original work, and some fanfic for fun. I post a lot of poetry, some fiction and nonfiction. My most popular fanfic series is Love Is For Children (The Avengers). See my Serial Poetry page and How To articles. The first Tuesday of each month, I host a Poetry Fishbowl in blog; people give me prompts and I write poems based on whatever I get. Next up will be February 4 with a theme of "I believe in dragons, good men, and other fantasy creatures.." I also participate in the crowdfunding Creative Jam mid-month. Next up will be February 15-16 on "Communication."

Love Is For Children: mostly nonsexual, some Betty/Bruce-and-Hulk, past Tony/Pepper, new Clint&JARVIS as an ace couple

The Blueshift Troupers: Taylor/Zasha

Schrodinger's Heroes: Pat has a polyfamily, Quinn is the fandom bicycle, and other combinations vary by dimension.

An Army of One: The Autistic Secession in Space: mostly nonsexual with a few couples.

Daughters of the Apocalypse: whoops, running out of men, cue female relationships!

Eloquent Souls: all the ways a soulbond doesn't solve everything; orientations vary. "Soul Song" is the first, doesn't have a landing page yet.

Frankenstein's Family: queerplatonic Victor&Igor, a lesbian couple supporting characters, two werewolf couples, and a human couple with vampire third.

Hart's Farm: a free love commune with the whole QUILTBAG, one monogamous couple, and two aces.

The Origami Mage: ace/aro leads in an Asian fantasy.

Path of the Paladins: ace/aro leads in low fantasy.

P.I.E.: urban fantasy with a hot lady in a wheelchair and the several men interested in her.

Polychrome Heroics -- superhero fantasy with the whole QUILTBAG
* Antimatter and Stalwart Stan: Antimatter is a gay supervillain, Stalwart Stan is a demiromantic bisexual superhero, and they work it out somehow.
* Calliope is a transgender superhera with a supervillain platonic-bondmate. Oops.
* Cuoio and Chiara: Mobster romance.
* Officer Pink: Ansel/Janie + Turq as a platonic third.
* Pain's Gray: kinky gangsters. Gray is actually heterosexual but bisensual, other orientations vary. Hawt power exchange.
* Trichromatic Attachments: Tarnish is a gay supervillain. Cavalier is a bisexual gray hat. Princessa is a straight superhera. Won't this be fun? Hot mess is hot.

What I'm Looking For: I'm always interested in new friends and readers, or new things to read in favorite topics. I'd enjoy connecting with more artists.

Re: Hello!

[whuffle]

Are you familiar with the works of MFK Fisher? If not, I suspect you would enjoy her.

[whuffle]

Okay this contains a lot of things that I wouldn’t normally put out where other people can see them, but I am trying to be more adventurous and to find people I jibe with on DW again after a really long hiatus. Plus, this is YOU, Ysabet. And you have always created a safe space and collected people around you who read as safe to me. Sooo here goes nothing!

Name: Whuffle or Firebirdschild
Sex/Gender Identity: Female-bodied bisexual
Sex/Romance/Other: Bisexual in a permanent poly trio.
Find Me At: https://archiveofourown.org/users/IShouldBeWriting/works
https://archiveofourown.org/users/Firebirdschild/works
https://storium.com/user/firebirdschild
What I Love About Valentines Day: Actually I’m not really a fan of Valentines Day
What I Hate About Valentines Day: Commercialism and people feeling forced to express their love for others.
What I Love to Do By Myself: Write! Take walks in the marsh. Go camping. Stargaze. Nap in a hammock. Practice karate.
Heartbreak: Oof. Not sure what to do with this one.
Romantic Favorites: Four weddings and a Funeral. Ladyhawke. Chitrangada (No seriously if you don’t know about it you really should! https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chitrangada_(play)
Erotic Favorites: seeing anything in writing, media real life where it’s clear that the characters/people take the time to learn what their partner likes AND DO THOSE THINGS. Seriously. Any time people communicate well, observe each others nonverbal cues enough to recognize and follow through on them, feel safe enough with each other to admit the things they’ve wanted and haven’t tried, or just ask for what they want. Consent and communication are hot. So is listening to your partner(s)
My Kink(s): In person, writing, or reading; competent characters. Truly deep trust. Knives. Ropework.
Platonic Favorites: Seanan McGuire’s “Ghost of Sparrow Hill Road” books are a favorite. So is Michelle Sagara’s “Chronicles of Elantra” and chocolate. Alllll the chocolate.
Favorite Blogs or Communities: Storium.com. Bluesky’s Alt-gov feeds.
About My Blog: My blog here has been a long-term narrative of my life.
What I Create: I write a lot of original fiction these days (see storium), can and do write fiction about folklore/mythology and I make plenty of digital artwork. I also sew and knit.
What I'm Looking For: I’d love to make some new friends. Find people who I can talk with about writing and kids and cooking and karate and camping.

Thoughts

[ysabetwordsmith]

>> Okay this contains a lot of things that I wouldn’t normally put out where other people can see them, but I am trying to be more adventurous and to find people I jibe with on DW again after a really long hiatus.<<

Go you!

>> Plus, this is YOU, Ysabet. And you have always created a safe space and collected people around you who read as safe to me. Sooo here goes nothing! <<

That's what I aim for.

>> media real life where it’s clear that the characters/people take the time to learn what their partner likes AND DO THOSE THINGS. <<

Yeah, that's awesome.

>>Truly deep trust.<<

Radical trust is edgeplay. <3 One thing I like about Miraculous Ladybug is how often the characters say "I trust you."