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ysabetwordsmithThis installment discusses the general relationships of Wednesday Addams in Wednesday.
Here is the character study:
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 1: Introduction
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 2: Ethnicity & Linguistics
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 3: An Outcast
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 4: Thoughts and Feelings
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 5: Relationships
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 6: Solitary Accomplishments
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 7: Trust and Betrayal
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 8: Connected Characters
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 9: Enid
See also:
"Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 1: Introduction
Wednesday Addams is not a people person, and she is quite honest about that. She is an outcast among Outcasts. She is an introvert and most of her favorite pastimes, like writing and playing cello, are solitary. The problem is that other people don't want to accept it. They think of her as antisocial and want to make her more social. But introverts just socialize differently than extroverts. The problem is worst with some of the boys, who get interested in her because of her enigmatic and aloof nature, demand her attention -- but then get hurt feelings and sulk when she continues to be her weird, introverted self instead of fawning over them like they expect. A similar issue occurs with Enid Sinclair, who unilaterally decides to make friends with Wednesday, offers unasked advice and favors, then throws a fit when Wednesday does not reciprocate as expected -- which is not that different from a guy who buys dinner and then feels "entitled" to sex. They knew what she was when they picked her up. She told them, repeatedly. They just didn't believe it. That's their problem, not Wednesday's problem.
Enid Sinclair: Let me give you a wiki on Nevermore's social scene.
Wednesday Addams: I'm not interested in participating in tribal adolescent clichés.
Enid Sinclair: Well, then use it to fill your obviously bottomless pit of disdain.
This quote comes from a TV series ‘Wednesday’. The scene where this moment comes from is from Season 1 Episode 1, with the title of ‘Wednesday’s Child Is Full of Woe’
"I’m not interested in participating in tribal adolescent clichés."
-- Best Wednesday Quotes
Wednesday Addams: I'm not used to people engaging with me. Most see me coming and cross the street.
Tyler Galpin: You're not scary. You're just kinda... kooky.
Wednesday Addams: I prefer spooky.
This quote comes from a TV series ‘Wednesday’. The scene where this moment comes from is from Season 1 Episode 1, with the title of ‘Wednesday’s Child Is Full of Woe’
Valerie Kinbott: Wednesday, Part of the reason your parents sent you to Nevermore is so you could find your people. Become part of a larger community.
Wednesday Addams: I like being an island. A well-fortified one surrounded by sharks.
This quote comes from a TV series ‘Wednesday’. The scene where this moment comes from is from Season 1 Episode 2, with the title of ‘Woe Is the Loneliest Number’
"Friends are a liability and can be exploited. That makes them weaknesses."
-- Best Wednesday Quotes
"It’s not my fault I can’t interpret your emotional Morse code."
-- Wednesday to Tyler
Wednesday Addams: I act as if I don't care if people dislike me. Deep down... I secretly enjoy it.
The scene where this moment comes from is from Season 1 Episode 2, with the title of ‘Woe Is the Loneliest Number’
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Why Introverts Don't Consider Everyone Their Friend
Why Men Like Mysterious Women
Why We Chase People Who Don’t Want Us — The Psychology Of Romantic Obsession
Writing is Often a Solitary Experience by Susan L Stewart
So far, canon has not specified Wednesday's sexual or romantic orientation. (Her tactile orientation, however, is clearly Not A Hugger; she avoids physical contact as much as possible.) It has laid a lot of groundwork, but the pattern is not altogether consistent. First, we have Wednesday's expression of what she wants and doesn't want. She is clear and mostly consistent about that: she doesn't like people, prefers to be alone, and has no time for typical teen pursuits such as dating. She goes through the motions only if she has to or she's using it as a means to an end. Yet the show sets up multiple boys -- primarily Tyler Galpin and Xavier Thorpe -- as would-be partners.
None of these have anywhere near the energy of Wednesday's fractious relationship with her roommate Enid Sinclair. Fandom is shipping Wednesday/Enid with great enthusiasm, although the show is unlikely to follow through with that. The scriptwriters seem to have inserted obligatory boyfriend candidates because it's expected for a teen show, but Wednesday is having none of that bullshit.
Her most likely orientation seems to be aromantic asexual. However, we can't rule out demiromantic and/or demisexual because she hasn't spent enough time with anyone to activate attraction, and the boys aren't showing the kind of patience it would take to develop that anyhow. Enid is faring much better in that regard, which makes lesbianism an option. Quoiromantic (not understanding romantic attraction) and nebularomantic (unable to distinguish between romantic and platonic) are also strong possibilities. Wednesday doesn't understand why people obsess over this stuff and doesn't care. Of course, other orientations are possible; these just seem the most likely based on series canon thus far.
While the show may continue to throw boys at Wednesday out of habit, it is unlikely to ring true. If you want to ship her with someone else, there are plenty of options in canon, both male and female. You also have all the justification you need to leave her happily solitary on platonic, romantic, and/or sexual levels.
"You guys are making me nauseous. Not in a good way."
-- Wednesday Addams
"I'm not friend material, let alone more-than-friend material. I will ignore you, stomp on your heart and always put my needs and interests first."
-- Wednesday Addams to Tyler
"Because for some reason I cannot fathom or indulge, you seem to like me."
-- Wednesday to Xavier
Wednesday Addams: [to Tyler] When I came to Nevermore, romance was the last thing on my mind. But when you kissed me, you opened my eyes, and suddenly it all made sense.
An interesting question for fanwriters is how Wednesday will develop in the future. Will she stick with her loner approach, or choose to work on learning how to forge alliances? Can she stay a loner without breaking everything around her? Can she develop closer relationships without losing touch with herself? Will she settle on a specific sexual/romantic orientation, and if so what?
Finally, I have always liked Wednesday Addams, across many iterations. I've also always considered that she might be a lesbian, and even a moon lesbian -- although in a previous example, I paired her with another moon instead of a sun, and as romantic. See "The Addams Family Reunion."
3 Ways to Differentiate Between Love and Friendship -- wikiHow
10 Most Popular Wednesday Ships
14 Memes That May Be Painfully Relatable If You're Not a Hugger
How To Recognize And Understand Romantic Attraction
How to Write an Asexual Character
It’s Okay Not To Hug: Tips for Teens and Tweens During the Holidays
Netflix’s Wednesday series sparks debate with LGBTQ+ viewers: ‘A metaphor for people in the closet’
She's just not that into you (but you probably think she is)
Tips for Writing Realistic Aromantic Spectrum Characters
Wenclair Jealousy Moments That Prove Wednesday and Enid Are a Thing
Wenclair -- Shipping Wiki
Why the Love Triangle Doesn't Work in Netflix's 'Wednesday'
Here is the character study:
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 1: Introduction
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 2: Ethnicity & Linguistics
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 3: An Outcast
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 4: Thoughts and Feelings
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 5: Relationships
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 6: Solitary Accomplishments
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 7: Trust and Betrayal
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 8: Connected Characters
Meta: "Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 9: Enid
See also:
"Why I Love Wednesday Addams" Part 1: Introduction
Wednesday Addams is not a people person, and she is quite honest about that. She is an outcast among Outcasts. She is an introvert and most of her favorite pastimes, like writing and playing cello, are solitary. The problem is that other people don't want to accept it. They think of her as antisocial and want to make her more social. But introverts just socialize differently than extroverts. The problem is worst with some of the boys, who get interested in her because of her enigmatic and aloof nature, demand her attention -- but then get hurt feelings and sulk when she continues to be her weird, introverted self instead of fawning over them like they expect. A similar issue occurs with Enid Sinclair, who unilaterally decides to make friends with Wednesday, offers unasked advice and favors, then throws a fit when Wednesday does not reciprocate as expected -- which is not that different from a guy who buys dinner and then feels "entitled" to sex. They knew what she was when they picked her up. She told them, repeatedly. They just didn't believe it. That's their problem, not Wednesday's problem.
Enid Sinclair: Let me give you a wiki on Nevermore's social scene.
Wednesday Addams: I'm not interested in participating in tribal adolescent clichés.
Enid Sinclair: Well, then use it to fill your obviously bottomless pit of disdain.
This quote comes from a TV series ‘Wednesday’. The scene where this moment comes from is from Season 1 Episode 1, with the title of ‘Wednesday’s Child Is Full of Woe’
"I’m not interested in participating in tribal adolescent clichés."
-- Best Wednesday Quotes
Wednesday Addams: I'm not used to people engaging with me. Most see me coming and cross the street.
Tyler Galpin: You're not scary. You're just kinda... kooky.
Wednesday Addams: I prefer spooky.
This quote comes from a TV series ‘Wednesday’. The scene where this moment comes from is from Season 1 Episode 1, with the title of ‘Wednesday’s Child Is Full of Woe’
Valerie Kinbott: Wednesday, Part of the reason your parents sent you to Nevermore is so you could find your people. Become part of a larger community.
Wednesday Addams: I like being an island. A well-fortified one surrounded by sharks.
This quote comes from a TV series ‘Wednesday’. The scene where this moment comes from is from Season 1 Episode 2, with the title of ‘Woe Is the Loneliest Number’
"Friends are a liability and can be exploited. That makes them weaknesses."
-- Best Wednesday Quotes
"It’s not my fault I can’t interpret your emotional Morse code."
-- Wednesday to Tyler
Wednesday Addams: I act as if I don't care if people dislike me. Deep down... I secretly enjoy it.
The scene where this moment comes from is from Season 1 Episode 2, with the title of ‘Woe Is the Loneliest Number’
33 Hobbies For Introverts And People Who Like To Be Alone
A Complete Guide To Introverts: The 4 Most Common Types And Signs
Does Paying for Expensive Dates Entitle Men to Sex?
Don’t Expect People To Change For You
Stop Telling Introverts to Act Like Extroverts
We Don't Need to Change to Please Other People
Why Are Introverts Hated? (5 Intriguing Reasons)
Why Introverts Don't Consider Everyone Their Friend
Why Men Like Mysterious Women
Why We Chase People Who Don’t Want Us — The Psychology Of Romantic Obsession
Writing is Often a Solitary Experience by Susan L Stewart
So far, canon has not specified Wednesday's sexual or romantic orientation. (Her tactile orientation, however, is clearly Not A Hugger; she avoids physical contact as much as possible.) It has laid a lot of groundwork, but the pattern is not altogether consistent. First, we have Wednesday's expression of what she wants and doesn't want. She is clear and mostly consistent about that: she doesn't like people, prefers to be alone, and has no time for typical teen pursuits such as dating. She goes through the motions only if she has to or she's using it as a means to an end. Yet the show sets up multiple boys -- primarily Tyler Galpin and Xavier Thorpe -- as would-be partners.
None of these have anywhere near the energy of Wednesday's fractious relationship with her roommate Enid Sinclair. Fandom is shipping Wednesday/Enid with great enthusiasm, although the show is unlikely to follow through with that. The scriptwriters seem to have inserted obligatory boyfriend candidates because it's expected for a teen show, but Wednesday is having none of that bullshit.
Her most likely orientation seems to be aromantic asexual. However, we can't rule out demiromantic and/or demisexual because she hasn't spent enough time with anyone to activate attraction, and the boys aren't showing the kind of patience it would take to develop that anyhow. Enid is faring much better in that regard, which makes lesbianism an option. Quoiromantic (not understanding romantic attraction) and nebularomantic (unable to distinguish between romantic and platonic) are also strong possibilities. Wednesday doesn't understand why people obsess over this stuff and doesn't care. Of course, other orientations are possible; these just seem the most likely based on series canon thus far.
While the show may continue to throw boys at Wednesday out of habit, it is unlikely to ring true. If you want to ship her with someone else, there are plenty of options in canon, both male and female. You also have all the justification you need to leave her happily solitary on platonic, romantic, and/or sexual levels.
"You guys are making me nauseous. Not in a good way."
-- Wednesday Addams
"I'm not friend material, let alone more-than-friend material. I will ignore you, stomp on your heart and always put my needs and interests first."
-- Wednesday Addams to Tyler
"Because for some reason I cannot fathom or indulge, you seem to like me."
-- Wednesday to Xavier
Wednesday Addams: [to Tyler] When I came to Nevermore, romance was the last thing on my mind. But when you kissed me, you opened my eyes, and suddenly it all made sense.
An interesting question for fanwriters is how Wednesday will develop in the future. Will she stick with her loner approach, or choose to work on learning how to forge alliances? Can she stay a loner without breaking everything around her? Can she develop closer relationships without losing touch with herself? Will she settle on a specific sexual/romantic orientation, and if so what?
Finally, I have always liked Wednesday Addams, across many iterations. I've also always considered that she might be a lesbian, and even a moon lesbian -- although in a previous example, I paired her with another moon instead of a sun, and as romantic. See "The Addams Family Reunion."
3 Ways to Differentiate Between Love and Friendship -- wikiHow
10 Most Popular Wednesday Ships
14 Memes That May Be Painfully Relatable If You're Not a Hugger
How To Recognize And Understand Romantic Attraction
How to Write an Asexual Character
It’s Okay Not To Hug: Tips for Teens and Tweens During the Holidays
Netflix’s Wednesday series sparks debate with LGBTQ+ viewers: ‘A metaphor for people in the closet’
She's just not that into you (but you probably think she is)
Tips for Writing Realistic Aromantic Spectrum Characters
Wenclair Jealousy Moments That Prove Wednesday and Enid Are a Thing
Wenclair -- Shipping Wiki
Why the Love Triangle Doesn't Work in Netflix's 'Wednesday'
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2023-03-27 09:04 am (UTC)Exactly. In fact, that's where "opposites attract" makes the most sense: people with complementary strengths and weaknesses. Enid is good at interpersonal skills, Wednesday is good at intrapersonal skills, and they could learn a lot from each other that way -- if they stop expecting the other to be like them.
>> (and the whole win-win thing doesn't mesh well with many modern cultural ideals.) <<
Hence the high rate of FAIL going on everywhere from the divorce rate to the economy.
>> Bianca actually envies Wednesday's social indifference, a bit. <<
While Wednesday sometimes wishes she could care a little more. I think there's a lot of potential between these two, and the show did seem to set up Bianca as a possible key to Season 2.
>> And I remember that her mother is being a jerk, and Wednesday has a protective streak, so that has potential for a Season Two plotline.<<
Exactly.
>> Maybe if they start befriending each other, she and Thing could teach Bianca some sign language? (Some people like having practical stuff to do during 'social time.') <<
I did think of that. Thing is a perfect friend for Bianca, or any other insecure siren, because he can communicate with gestures instead of speech. Teach that to Bianca, and without using her voice, she can be completely sure that Thing actually likes her as a friend. If that's a common insecurity, then Hands and Sirens would be natural allies.
>> I know that Enid's boyfriend (forgot his name) <<
Ajax:
https://addamsfamily.fandom.com/wiki/Ajax_Petropolus
>> didn't interact with Wednesday much in Season One, but it might be interesting to see them interact later. <<
I agree. If gorgons are trained not to engage, they should be more comfortable for an introvert to be around.
But on the flip side, an extroverted gorgon would be fucking miserable in their own culture.
Ajax: "Enid, I need your help. My cousin is driving me bonkers. She's like an octopus or something. Can you take her for an hour or so and, I dunno, do girl stuff or something?"
Suppertime ...
Ajax: "Wednesday, why are you sitting in the hall outside your room? I came to get Enid for supper, is something wrong?"
Wednesday: "Enid and your weird cousin have been all over each other all afternoon. Enter at your own peril."
>> He seems to be the sort of guy who will be chill with getting a scary shovel talk, and he also might be the sort of guy who is smart enough to try and make a good impression on his love interest's friends.<<
Also true.
>> Plus if they both speak Greek...<<
That would be awesome. I'd really love to see Wednesday getting to use her linguistic abilities more often, especially as a means to connect with other people.
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2023-03-28 01:26 am (UTC)I am reminded of how sincerely conservative religious* guys are sometimes nice to be around...because it is ungodly to stare at / creep on women!
*the kind who avert their eyes from unclothed elbows or whatever, not the ones who are yelling about "Put on more clothes, woman!"
>>Also true.<<
We need more stories where courtship involves making a good impression on the love interest's social circle without being creepy pr paternalistic.