Hard Things

[ysabetwordsmith]

Life is full of things which are hard or tedious or otherwise unpleasant that need doing anyhow. They help make the world go 'round, they improve skills, and they boost your sense of self-respect. But doing them still kinda sucks. It's all the more difficult to do those things when nobody appreciates it. Happily, blogging allows us to share our accomplishments and pat each other on the back.

What are some of the hard things you've done recently? What are some hard things you haven't gotten to yet, but need to do? Is there anything your online friends could do to make your hard things a little easier?

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[we_are_spc]

Therapy. Because assault stuff we didn't get to in Indiana.

My therapist is win. SHe...actually explains things. The workings behind *why* thoughts are the way they are. For us, mechanics help. A lot.

It's why we like your articles. "Oh hey, the wetware is messed up? Here's why, here's how to fix it. Oh, that's not working this time? Well then try this."

T: Oh you're thinking like this? QWell ges what, that's normal (Insert cycle here) Counter it with (insert skills.)

...

Or: "So you're doing this, what skills did you just use/are you using?"

...

Still, I'ma need starbucks after this trip. (And I'll have it thanks to a gift card.)

-moving. Finances. Overdrawn again. I'm really worried that that's going to affect my being able to leave this situation. I'm still working on loss mitagation, and I'm also afraid that I won't get everything in in time to save things.

I'm behind on both HOA and mortgage by larg amounts.

But....the expectations here are just...unrealistic. I can't.

And I get this 'Hell no' feeling when I think about going back to Indiana. Which I know why. But if They don't want me back there, than They need to find me the money (Which is in the 4 figures) to keep me here, because at this point I feel I may *have* to go back there so FHA things can work. And it has to be *gguaranteed*. As much as I love IM; most of their events are in Cleveland, and I have no real way of tetting there when they pop up at short notice.

I do appreciate Their trying, but something needs to happen if Indiana isn't an option in *Their* minds.

Ug.

(I'm managing to not completely break, but let me tell you, this is taking both good and not so good coping skills.)

[wispfox]

I am currently working retail to help make ends meet while I continue to try to get into the UX field. I am... not an extrovert. I like people, which helps, but working retail makes me even less available to people outside of work than I already was, especially in the winter.

I've got a week off right now, and I needed it so badly. It is nice to have a break from constantly job hunting, but *sigh*.

[readera]

Work is using all my time and spoons. The pay is awesome but i can't keep going like this. I dont have enough spoons/time to take care of my household or look for new work. 😒😵

[jtthomas]

Recording this album through the haze of dysphoria (and winter illness, to which I am quite susceptible). But progress is being made.

Semester's about to start as well, and I'm taking 20 credits, so that'll be... something.

[kellan_the_tabby]

Today I pulled my van VERY CLOSE to the side of the tinker's wagon, then climbed up the driver's side door to the roof, & then used THAT to get up on top of the tinker's wagon so I could start putting on the roof.

... I am slightly afraid of heights.

[mama_kestrel]

I need to find my way out of the hole I've crawled into. That's hard because it means I need to talk. (I know, for those who know me that sounds incredible, but there it is.) I'm reluctant to talk about what's going on in my life because I don't want to embarrass my mom or make her look bad, but, well, that's what's going on in my life. (Short version: the woman wouldn't know a boundary if it fell on her head, and while the dementia has exacerbated that, it's far from a new problem.) So I'm trying to build or find a ladder, and for all the times I've done that for other people, I don't know how to do it for myself.

And I think I'd best hit post before I delete the whole thing.

This is one of the hardest things I've ever dealt with.

[pronker]

Update from Sunday's phone call from place of worship: Office Lady there expressly asked that I tell Spouse not to come to Thursday class any longer due to his incontinence and Depends not holding all of it in. She suggested online courses. He decided to go anyway and plans to bring a cushion tonight that I made for him in case he leaks. (Another elderly man, since deceased, always brought a cushion so Spouse sees precedent.) Office Lady exchanged phone #'s with me and requested that I text when he is coming and if he is clean or not. I regret giving her my cell # and saying she could text back and forth. I am on guard with her.



Their side is that the $50 chairs continuing to be ruined (because they will not clean them but declare them soiled and "dishonoring the house of prayer" and thus require replacement) is unfair to them because Office Lady says "he's had plenty of chances to change since November 2019 at her first phone call and people don't want to come anymore because of him".



His side is that he wishes to attend any activity, loves the place despite all because he's attended 20 years, and resents being singled out in spite of his unsocial odor and occasional behavior (he can get aggressive with his walker involving anybody in his way when he needs to get someplace, such as the bathroom or simply moving through the crowd. He never hits anybody but looks very intense and that can intimidate.)



My side is that I want him to go there as much as he can.



The setting is a private home that is regularly crowded with wall to wall people Main Worship Day, a line for getting food from the buffet tables on this day's free lunch, and hours long religious services and classes that he loves. I've been to them numerous times throughout twenty years and find the place claustrophobic, although others find them "family like" and "bustling, in a good way." I can see both points of view. There are many children around for him to tell stories to and he enjoys singing. He can be charming and offers interesting stories.



Best case scenario is that Worship Leader allows him to enter for the class tonight and accepts his cushion for both class and Main Worship Day. Acceptable case scenario is that he is rejected for Thursdays and allowed to come on Main Worship Day. Less acceptable case scenario is that Worship Leader insists that he curtail his stays on Main Worship Day to perhaps 2 hours. Absolute worst case is that they call the cops on him because he was asked not to come, with the corollary of his arrest.

My most uncharitable thought: right before New Year's, they called him for a donation and he said no, but he would sponsor a lunch in February, approximate cost $200.