Cuddle Party

[ysabetwordsmith]

Everyone needs contact comfort sometimes.  Not everyone has ample opportunities for this in facetime.  So here is a chance for a cuddle party in cyberspace.  Virtual cuddling can help people feel better.

We have a cuddle room that comes with fort cushions, fort frames, sheets for draping, and a weighted blanket.  It has a basket of grooming brushes, hairbrushes, and styling combs.  A bin holds textured pillows. There is a big basket of craft supplies along with art markers, coloring pages, and blank paper.  The kitchen has a popcorn machine. Labels are available to mark dietary needs, recipe ingredients, and level of spiciness. Here is the bathroom, open to everyone.  There is a lawn tent and an outdoor hot tub. Bathers should post a sign for nude or clothed activity.  Come snuggle up!

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Re: Gah

[ng_moonmoth]

Sure! *disappears for a bit, comes back with a body pillow, a largeish stuffie, and a few other odds and ends*

*unzips body pillow cover and pulls the pillow out*

Care to jump in? There ought to be enough room for you in there. The stuffie will join you if you'd like, and I've also brought pillows and blankets for padding. After you're in, I can zip it up to your neck if you'd like. Here's a scarf you can wrap around your neck for protection from the zipper.

Once you're set up, whether face-up or face-down, I'll sprawl out on top for squish and hug you tight. Six, who's been exchanging touch with me upthread, might come over. If they do, they can work on my back at the same time.

How well does this work for you? Anything you'd like different?

Re: Gah

[(Anonymous)]

Eeeeehhh.....no, too much like a bad thing, don't zip me in anywhere.I'm already fighting with body AH! *rolls up in big fluffy blanket with the big stuffy until only head is out and body is lying on top of stuffy* there should be enough fluffy blanket to pad you, but you can put the pillow on me if not. ..

If someone wants to put firm finger NO NAILS pressure on my scalp and neck and shoulders while I get squished Reese

(IRL is hard when you have to adult and work while body freaks out and all your nerves go berserk and you can hear and feel and smell and taste all the things and you can't stim hard enough for it to stop.....today man.)

Re: Gah

[ysabetwordsmith]

>> If someone wants to put firm finger NO NAILS pressure on my scalp and neck and shoulders while I get squished Reese <<

I can rub shoulders.

>> (IRL is hard when you have to adult and work while body freaks out and all your nerves go berserk and you can hear and feel and smell and taste all the things and you can't stim hard enough for it to stop.....today man.) <<

That sucks. :(

Re: Gah

[(Anonymous)]

Body IRL still not happy, shower hothothot water and fuzzy blanket and heavy heating pads and reading about dialecticdreamer brushing my hair.....and trying not to panic. Because body WILL calm down. It will.

Re: Gah

[ysabetwordsmith]

It will calm down eventually. Bodies usually do. That still sucks in the meantime, though. :(

Can we do more to help?

Re: Gah

[(Anonymous)]

Describe things with pressure and grounding...my body literally feels like it 'is buzzing and fraying apart, everything is light and staticky and separate and jittery and ITCHY FEELS LIKE IT WON'T COME BACK TOGETHER....it will, my skin and muscles are still in one piece, but my nerves haven't caught on that they are part of one being and they don't all have to scream about everything they sense

Re: Gah

[ysabetwordsmith]

I can certainly do grounding. I set up the cuddle room with the same automatic features as my house has. So lying down, put both palms on the floor and think about grounding. The energy will shift to help you ground.

For pressure, how about squeezing parts of your body in order to help them connect? Like skin-brushing, but with deep pressure. This is your right hand. This is your right forearm. And then when we're done with that, do the allover squishing again.

Re: Gah

[(Anonymous)]

I wish somone was here IRL to squish for real... this is when I miss old house most, I used to be able to go into the basement and squash myself between the dryer stack and the wall

Re: Gah

[ng_moonmoth]

OK, won't zip OK, won't zip you in then.

*sprawls out on blanket roll and wraps arms around it*

OK, I'm on top of you with my head on one side of yours. *SQUISH* *invites Six to start in on the back*

You can use that squish to squeeze out all the nerves, wherever it wants to go -- the surroundings, the stuffie, me -- just like wringing the dirt out of a sponge you've used. ysabetwordsmith has indicated the surroundings can take care of themselves, I'm taking care of the stuffie, and Six is taking care of me while they help me build up a big pool of relax over here. I won't push it on you, but it's here for you to tap and replace the gunk that's coming out with something clean and nice and comforting.

OK, let's go now, and see if we can relax the crud out of you!