Notes for "Who We Don't Ever Want to Be"
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"Sometimes we motivate ourselves by thinking of what we want to become. Sometimes we motivate ourselves by thinking about who we don't ever want to be again. Everything we do is part of who we are. How we choose to use those memories, to motivate or to submit is entirely up to us."
-- Shane Niemeyer in The Hurt Artist
Sober Companion
Moderation is one approach to problem drinking, which aims to reduce the amount and/or frequency of consumption, plus harm reduction efforts to avoid negative results such as hangovers or drunk driving. In this case, Tarnish wants to find better ways of coping with challenges than getting drunk. He doesn't have a chemical dependency, just a bad habit of drinking when he feels overwhelmed, so the moderation approach is definitely helping. Plus the sobering center is heavily invested in harm reduction, so they don't push abstinence, which makes it more accessible. Supportive friends can help with moderation goals.
Emfriend is a gender-neutral term for someone you're dating, the equivalent of boyfriend or girlfriend. This is related to a gender-neutral pronoun set (ey, em, emself, eirs), sometimes called Spivak pronouns.
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"Sometimes we motivate ourselves by thinking of what we want to become. Sometimes we motivate ourselves by thinking about who we don't ever want to be again. Everything we do is part of who we are. How we choose to use those memories, to motivate or to submit is entirely up to us."
-- Shane Niemeyer in The Hurt Artist
Sober Companion
Moderation is one approach to problem drinking, which aims to reduce the amount and/or frequency of consumption, plus harm reduction efforts to avoid negative results such as hangovers or drunk driving. In this case, Tarnish wants to find better ways of coping with challenges than getting drunk. He doesn't have a chemical dependency, just a bad habit of drinking when he feels overwhelmed, so the moderation approach is definitely helping. Plus the sobering center is heavily invested in harm reduction, so they don't push abstinence, which makes it more accessible. Supportive friends can help with moderation goals.
Emfriend is a gender-neutral term for someone you're dating, the equivalent of boyfriend or girlfriend. This is related to a gender-neutral pronoun set (ey, em, emself, eirs), sometimes called Spivak pronouns.
Extracts use a solvent, typically alcohol, to absorb flavors from plant materials. Nonalcoholic ones use a different solvent such as glycerin. Some people who seek sobriety through moderation rather than elimination find that using culinary quantities helps their body understand that alcohol is not something to freak out over, without consuming enough to get tipsy. Vanilla extract is by far the most popular, but others such as almond and peppermint also appear often. Extracts are typically simples made from one plant source.
Understanding Alcohol used in Angel Bake Pure Extracts: Safety and Quality Explained
TOP 10 BEST FLAVOR EXTRACTS FOR BAKING
Bitters are extracts made with multiple plant materials, sometimes dozens in a single recipe. The flavors are much more intricate than simple extracts made from a single plant source. Historically bitters had digestive or other medicinal uses. Nowadays they are mostly used to flavor alcoholic cocktails. However, they can also be used to flavor nonalcoholic beverages or in baking and cooking. Angostura, Peychaud's, and orange are some of the most popular types. Vena's Fizz House offers an extensive array of flavors far beyond the traditional ones. Nonalcoholic bitters using glycerin or other solvents are available for people who avoid all alcohol.
Hops
A dreampillow is typically a sachet filled with soothing herbs, which can be tucked into a bed pillow. Sometimes a larger pillow is filled with large herbs such as hops cones. The scent of the herbs is good for relaxation and sleep.
Herbs that Help Cleanse the Body during Drug and Alcohol Detox
Best Calming Herbs and Spices To Use This Fall & Winter
Sweetgrass
Adaptogens
5 Senses Stress Relief Activities
6 Coping Skills
(distraction, grounding, emotional release, self love, thought challenge, access your higher self)
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80 Fun & Calming Things To Do Alone, Outside Or At Home
99 Coping Skills
How to Handle Emotions
Coping with Stressful Situations
Coping with Emotional Drop
Self-compassion
How to Increase Calm and Connections
Make a Self-Soothing Box
Coping Skills: Connecting with Your Environment
Home Care as Self-Care
How to Boost Your Mood: Sit by a Sunny Window
How to Simplify Kitchen Choices
Easy Food Ideas
Self-Care Assessment Worksheet
Self-Care Links
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Self-Care Workbook
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The practice of self-compassion and care
A guided journal to free yourself from self-criticism and feelings of low self-worth
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Knitting has many tutorials on All Free Knitting or Wikihow Knitting. Browse some free knitting patterns. Learn about knitting for beginners, best starter yarns, and best starter knitting needles.
Dishcloths are among the quickest and easiest projects for beginners. They can be made in many patterns.
Lace knitting can be done in various ways. Here are some lace stitches.
Food is bonding. It's good for couples to cook together and families to eat together.
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