How Couples Meet
Nov. 3rd, 2024 08:37 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ysabetwordsmithThere used to be many ways to meet a potential lifepartner; now it's almost all online. This poses many problems, including but not limited to:
* People who dislike, can't use, or can't afford a computer are almost completely shut out of dating.
* Meeting online loses body language, and crucially for mate selection, personal scent.
* Most online venues are designed for fast interactions, not slow ones. Serious relationships benefit from slow development and suffer from speeding.
* It's almost completely useless for some orientations, such as demisexual or demiromantic folks, which rely on building a close relationship before feelings of lust or romance may develop.
That doesn't mean you can't make friends or fall in love online. For some people, the pros may outweigh the cons. But making that major of a change in just 20 years seems like begging for trouble.
* People who dislike, can't use, or can't afford a computer are almost completely shut out of dating.
* Meeting online loses body language, and crucially for mate selection, personal scent.
* Most online venues are designed for fast interactions, not slow ones. Serious relationships benefit from slow development and suffer from speeding.
* It's almost completely useless for some orientations, such as demisexual or demiromantic folks, which rely on building a close relationship before feelings of lust or romance may develop.
That doesn't mean you can't make friends or fall in love online. For some people, the pros may outweigh the cons. But making that major of a change in just 20 years seems like begging for trouble.
Hmm ...
Date: 2024-11-05 10:13 am (UTC)