Skills Heroes Need: Emotional Skills
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ysabetwordsmithEmotional skills are the techniques we use to get along with each other and ourselves. Browse a list of emotional skills. These apply to most heroic situations that involve other people. You also need them to manage your own feelings.
* Dealing with difficult people. From bystanders to villains, many people will get in your hair. Know some steps and tactics for handling them. You can disagree without being disagreeable. Read a guidebook on coping with difficult people.
* De-escalation skills. These help you reduce tension and avoid violence. Such de-escalation skills can save a lot of hassles. Know the warning signs of trouble. There are verbal and physical techniques. Organizations can set policies to support this. Practice trauma-informed de-escalation. Understand that almost all conflicts begin as verbal before progressing to physical. So if you know the modes of verbal self-defense, you can usually avoid physical fights. Here are some ways you can de-escalate a conflict and de-escalation skills for use with children or people in a mental crisis. This outline can help. More on the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense is also available for online reading.
* Emotional abuse awareness. Emotional abuse is damaging. It has multiple types and signs. Gaslighting is a particularly troublesome example. Here is a scale of severity. Know how to recover from emotional abuse and help someone else deal with it.
* Emotional first aid. Just as you treat physical injuries or illnesses, you need to take care of emotional ones too. Promote it for all ages. Make an emotional first aid kit and stock it with soothing things. Know how to handle stressful situations and emotional drop. You may need to do emotional and spiritual triage in an emergency. This handbook covers psychological first aid in the field.
* Emotional intelligence. This includes intrapersonal intelligence and interpersonal intelligence. Learn to improve intrapersonal intelligence, interpersonal intelligence, and emotional intelligence in general. You can help someone develop emotional intelligence. This handbook addresses emotional intelligence at work and this workbook helps improve it.
* Emotional vocabulary. In order to discuss emotions, you need names for them. Emotion wheels can help. This emotion wheel divides general terms into more specific terms. Plutchik's wheel of emotions shows the relationships between them. These tools make it easier to and express your feelings.
* Imprint vulnerability. In certain limited situations, the mind is open to adding or altering deep structures called imprints. This is a very powerful principle; use it only for good. But don't be afraid of it, because it's a natural part of parenting. Marriage is another example. So is mentoring. They all rely on impressionable opportunities to create lasting effects.
* Peacemaking skills. Peacemaking is the process of resolving conflict without violence. You need certain attributes to teach peace effectively. Cultivate habits to be more peaceful. Use creativity to promote peace. Learn how to lead a peacemaking circle. Teach peacemaking to children. Here are some games and exercises for learning peace, a peacemaking manual, and a guide to peacemaking resources.
* Trauma-informed care. This usually refers to physical and mental health care parameters. However the principles really apply to all professions that deal with traumatized people, such as trauma-informed journalism. The core of trauma-informed care is asking "What happened to you?" instead of "What is wrong with you?" This forms the basis of the principles and practices. There are instructions for supporting trauma survivors and working through your own trauma. First responders typically have workplace procedures to minimize the risk of developing PTSD. Citizen responders can use the same principles. If someone is behaving all out of proportion to current circumstances, check the pattern to see if it suggests past trauma, and respond accordingly.
* Dealing with difficult people. From bystanders to villains, many people will get in your hair. Know some steps and tactics for handling them. You can disagree without being disagreeable. Read a guidebook on coping with difficult people.
* De-escalation skills. These help you reduce tension and avoid violence. Such de-escalation skills can save a lot of hassles. Know the warning signs of trouble. There are verbal and physical techniques. Organizations can set policies to support this. Practice trauma-informed de-escalation. Understand that almost all conflicts begin as verbal before progressing to physical. So if you know the modes of verbal self-defense, you can usually avoid physical fights. Here are some ways you can de-escalate a conflict and de-escalation skills for use with children or people in a mental crisis. This outline can help. More on the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense is also available for online reading.
* Emotional abuse awareness. Emotional abuse is damaging. It has multiple types and signs. Gaslighting is a particularly troublesome example. Here is a scale of severity. Know how to recover from emotional abuse and help someone else deal with it.
* Emotional first aid. Just as you treat physical injuries or illnesses, you need to take care of emotional ones too. Promote it for all ages. Make an emotional first aid kit and stock it with soothing things. Know how to handle stressful situations and emotional drop. You may need to do emotional and spiritual triage in an emergency. This handbook covers psychological first aid in the field.
* Emotional intelligence. This includes intrapersonal intelligence and interpersonal intelligence. Learn to improve intrapersonal intelligence, interpersonal intelligence, and emotional intelligence in general. You can help someone develop emotional intelligence. This handbook addresses emotional intelligence at work and this workbook helps improve it.
* Emotional vocabulary. In order to discuss emotions, you need names for them. Emotion wheels can help. This emotion wheel divides general terms into more specific terms. Plutchik's wheel of emotions shows the relationships between them. These tools make it easier to and express your feelings.
* Imprint vulnerability. In certain limited situations, the mind is open to adding or altering deep structures called imprints. This is a very powerful principle; use it only for good. But don't be afraid of it, because it's a natural part of parenting. Marriage is another example. So is mentoring. They all rely on impressionable opportunities to create lasting effects.
* Peacemaking skills. Peacemaking is the process of resolving conflict without violence. You need certain attributes to teach peace effectively. Cultivate habits to be more peaceful. Use creativity to promote peace. Learn how to lead a peacemaking circle. Teach peacemaking to children. Here are some games and exercises for learning peace, a peacemaking manual, and a guide to peacemaking resources.
* Trauma-informed care. This usually refers to physical and mental health care parameters. However the principles really apply to all professions that deal with traumatized people, such as trauma-informed journalism. The core of trauma-informed care is asking "What happened to you?" instead of "What is wrong with you?" This forms the basis of the principles and practices. There are instructions for supporting trauma survivors and working through your own trauma. First responders typically have workplace procedures to minimize the risk of developing PTSD. Citizen responders can use the same principles. If someone is behaving all out of proportion to current circumstances, check the pattern to see if it suggests past trauma, and respond accordingly.
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Date: 2022-01-29 05:51 am (UTC)Bringing up the disturbing incident to the neighbors on my other side revealed their knowledge that she had been under observation in a facility twice since Christmas, sent there by her son who now stays with her because she can't live alone any longer and he yearns to find a facility for her so he can return home to Oregon. :( She's so bright and studied art after retiring from 40 years of teaching. I can't say I was afraid, but it was a near thing because the tip of her nose was 10 inches from the tip of mine during part of her venting. It's so sad.
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Date: 2022-01-29 06:29 am (UTC)I'm happy I could help.
>>she can't live alone any longer and he yearns to find a facility for her so he can return home to Oregon.<<
It is sad that so little help is available and old people are basically imprisoned when they lose the ability to defend themselves.
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Date: 2022-01-29 07:17 pm (UTC)Re: Thoughts
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Date: 2022-01-29 11:31 am (UTC)You're welcome!
Date: 2022-01-29 05:39 pm (UTC)I'm glad you found this useful.
>> I feel like this is exactly what I need at this stage in my healing. I've already found a few things I can start practicing to get better at. :)
That's an excellent approach. Keep moving forward.