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This poem came out of the February 2, 2016 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by a prompt from LJ user Lb_lee. It also fills the square in my 1-23-16 card (Romantic) for the Valentine's Day Bingo fest. This poem has been sponsored by [personal profile] janetmiles. It belongs to the Danso and Family thread of the Polychrome Heroics series.

Warning: Although generally sweet, this poem contains references to prejudiced and unsupportive behavior by some people around Danso and Noah. Think before you click.

"The Frequency of Love"

Danso and Noah learned
to touch each other by slow degrees.

After Danso's time on the street
and challenges meshing his new family,
after Noah's awful breakup with his girlfriend
because of her miscarriage, both boys
needed something patient and gentle.

They started by just placing a hand
on each other's shoulders while walking
down the sidewalk, like team players
leaving a basketball court.

It was friendly and supportive,
and it felt good without being
too intimate too soon.

On days when Danso felt overwhelmed
by trying to fit himself back into teen life
like squeezing into a too-small sweater, or
by trying to stretch into adulthood a bit too soon
so that the sleeves flopped over his hands,
they would sit on the couch together
with Danso's head in Noah's lap.

That support helped him cope.

On days when Noah needed to cry
over only almost being a father,
or people at school picking on him
for "not being able to make up his mind,"
Danso would sit down, put the pillow
in his lap, and pat it in invitation
so that he could return the favor.

When they wanted to talk, then
they would curl up on the bed together,
each one's head resting on the other's knee,
their lips no more than a whisper apart.

They left the bedroom door ajar
by silent, mutual consent, not yet
ready for the possibilities which
closing that door would open.

Danso and Noah learned
that a boyfriend made a good pillow,
and that a heartbeat was like a radio signal,
each one with its own resonance.

If they listened, they could hear the frequency of love.

* * *


“My heartbeat is a pulse, and it pumps out sonic vibrations that resonate with her mind as she lays her head on my chest. Listen silently and you can hear the frequency of love.”
Jarod Kintz, This Book is Not FOR SALE

Taking it slow helps to develop healthy relationships, whether romantic or platonic. There are various definitions and advantages for taking it slow. Here are some tips on slow romance.

Gay teens like Danso face particular challenges in dating.

Bisexual teens like Noah face even worse challenges than gay peers and have less support. Know how to stand up for QUILTBAG youth.

Cuddling promotes closeness and other benefits. Here are some pointers on cuddling. The best reference is The Cuddle Sutra. The walking shoulder hold is called "Team Players." One lying in the other's lap on the couch is "Surf & Snuggle." Lying head-to-knee on the bed is "68 1/2."


Date: 2016-05-17 10:44 pm (UTC)
dialecticdreamer: My work (Default)
From: [personal profile] dialecticdreamer
I love that they respect each other enough to invest TIME in the relationship. A solid relationship isn't a sprint; it's a marathon. I love the cuddling, and loathe the sadnesses which prompt it.

I'm only left with one question: are they able to cuddle at Noah's home as well as Danso's?

Happy With Cuddles

Date: 2016-05-18 06:58 am (UTC)
alatefeline: Painting of a cat asleep on a book. (Default)
From: [personal profile] alatefeline
This is sweet and warm and safe. it makes me happy to see these young men treating each other with consideration.

Sequencing wise, I'm not sure how we got from "Unformed Clay" to here. What poems or stories have the moment when Noah and Danso start dating, if they call it dating, or when Noah's girlfriend has the miscarriage?

Re: Happy With Cuddles

Date: 2016-05-26 06:55 am (UTC)
alatefeline: Painting of a cat asleep on a book. (Default)
From: [personal profile] alatefeline
Note to self: do remember to prompt for some of these.

Re: Happy With Cuddles

Date: 2016-05-26 07:02 am (UTC)
alatefeline: Painting of a cat asleep on a book. (Default)
From: [personal profile] alatefeline
Sounds like a decent plan. I may also try messaging myself, because I tend to lose my focus on events when I try to transfer them back and forth between platforms or applications.

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Date: 2016-05-18 05:32 pm (UTC)
sweet_sparrow: Picture of two cats lying back-to-back with two black spots connecting to make a heart. (E: Heart)
From: [personal profile] sweet_sparrow
Awwwwwww. <3

awww :)

Date: 2016-05-24 03:15 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
this is so NICE! I love!
the awkwardness of being both touch hungry and tactile-defensive as well as having the stance on acts of traditional "coupleness" that I do mean that I GET THIS "How do I date and express my affections without being weird and creepy?" AWKWARD...I GET THIS AWKWARD SO HARD

people have WEIRD expectations for other peoples sexuality even if you're STRAIGHT...

like I've had peers come right out and ask about whether or not I've had a sexual encounter, attempt to get me to "confess being a lesbian" o_0 (WTF does that even MEAN?), INSIST that I must have had sexual encounters loudly and publicly and then shame me when there were no details forthcoming because 1. awkward 2. none of their business and 3. NO DETAILS TO GIVE...because I have not engaged in any coupling behaviors

I don't understand people my age being so invested in other people's sex lives or orientations or like, swabbing each other's tonsils for microbes with their tongues in public hallways....I don't understand this drive to like HAVE THE SEX and TALK ABOUT THE SEX and gossip about others because THEY MIGHT DO THE SEX DIFFERNT THAN YOU DO!

I just....don't want to participate? And that makes me a freak? Whatever.

so yeah, I can sort of see how if you add layers on to that "who am I and where do I fit and where am I comfortable" cake the situation and the feelings around it get even more COMPLICATED than they already were

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Date: 2016-06-11 12:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] paantha.livejournal.com
Oh, loves. Makes me want to hug them both. Glad that they are there for each other. <3


Date: 2016-06-12 09:16 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ysabetwordsmith.livejournal.com
They are very sweet together, and good for each other.


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