Btw, the tecnique REALLY only works if you do not care whether A or B is chosen. At the youngest age, it's the equivalent of "I wanna wear the ballerina dress (tutu) with my cowboy boots and fireman hat!"
If you honestly, genuinely look at that list and think, "they're all clean, no holes or other damage, and modest enough for somoene's fancy church (technically)---we're good!" it will work. If not, either you spend the time trying to find something /else/ which will work, or the kid very, very quickly learns that while you SAY you're okay with option A, there are all kinds of other things going on. (Like SOMEBODY suggesting drive through instead of a planned dinner out.) And yes, they're smart little humans with working brains--- they will USE what they learn, especially if they learn that something pushes the parent's buttons.
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dancing_serpent
Re: Oh, my, again!
Date: 2014-08-13 08:01 pm (UTC)If you honestly, genuinely look at that list and think, "they're all clean, no holes or other damage, and modest enough for somoene's fancy church (technically)---we're good!" it will work. If not, either you spend the time trying to find something /else/ which will work, or the kid very, very quickly learns that while you SAY you're okay with option A, there are all kinds of other things going on. (Like SOMEBODY suggesting drive through instead of a planned dinner out.) And yes, they're smart little humans with working brains--- they will USE what they learn, especially if they learn that something pushes the parent's buttons.