>> One of the big challenges I've had is that I don't really *want* to go through the immense stress of trying to "fix" my touch aversion this late in the game; I want someone to accept it as my range of needs and respect that. <<
Everyone has issues, challenges, limitations, flaws. It's up to each person to do the cost-effectiveness assessment and decide which of those are worth the amount of work it will take to fix them. And people should respect each other's quirks.
>>I am tired of having to compromise myself to meet other people's skin hunger instead of them compromising by simply not touching me or observing some basic manners, like giving warning or stopping promptly when asked - or, hell, just not exposing me to a guilt trip for saying, "No, I don't want that right now."<<
I'm very much reminded of how my asexual friends feel about relationships -- because 99% of population expects sex as part of a couple-relationship and if that's not on the table, don't want anything to do with you.
It also pisses me off that society says things like "Your body is yours and you decide what happens to it," but doesn't mean because rapeculture and sexism and laws that violate women's bodies and skin-boundary violation and so much other bullshit. And then they get all huffy if you call them on said bullshit.
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dancing_serpent
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Date: 2013-04-27 01:57 am (UTC)Everyone has issues, challenges, limitations, flaws. It's up to each person to do the cost-effectiveness assessment and decide which of those are worth the amount of work it will take to fix them. And people should respect each other's quirks.
>>I am tired of having to compromise myself to meet other people's skin hunger instead of them compromising by simply not touching me or observing some basic manners, like giving warning or stopping promptly when asked - or, hell, just not exposing me to a guilt trip for saying, "No, I don't want that right now."<<
I'm very much reminded of how my asexual friends feel about relationships -- because 99% of population expects sex as part of a couple-relationship and if that's not on the table, don't want anything to do with you.
It also pisses me off that society says things like "Your body is yours and you decide what happens to it," but doesn't mean because rapeculture and sexism and laws that violate women's bodies and skin-boundary violation and so much other bullshit. And then they get all huffy if you call them on said bullshit.
There is not enough W in TF.