Executive Function Theft
Nov. 4th, 2023 12:26 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ysabetwordsmithHere's a good article about Executive Function Theft. It is an unethical form of cognitive offloading. It can also be classified as a type of parasitism.
Think about how you handle decisions ...
Are some things always one person's responsibility, and if so, do other people have a similar number of different responsibilities? If there are genuine differences in skills and interests, then it makes sense to assign decisions to people who will do them well. Also some things, such as a family coordination calendar, are best kept by one person; but that should be balanced by other people taking similar-sized projects elsewhere, like tracking when to plant what in landscaping.
With items of mutual interest, such as "What shall we have for supper?" do people share equally in the discussion? Is someone(s) typically shut out and stuck with what someone(s) else decides? Or is someone(s) stuck doing all the decision-making when that is tiresome?
What level of executive function ability, skills, and energy do people have? Young people need time to grow into this, but if you do everything for them as they grow up, they will not learn those skills for themselves. Sometimes older people get less good at executive functions. Some disabilities or medications wreck it too. Don't put weight on people if they genuinely cannot handle it; that's not only crushing, it leads to a lot of avoidable problems. There are tools that can help with executive functions, such as a choreboard. There are ways to learn mental skills. Make sure you are assigning tasks to people who can do them well, and that you are not overloading anyone. And if someone didn't learn skills growing up? Don't yell or make fun of them; show them how to do stuff.
Make a point of showing appreciation for things people do in your life. "For better or for worse, never for granted."
Ten Best Ethical Decision Making Models
Ethical Decision Making Tools
YOUR DECISION, MY DECISION, OUR DECISION: 3 PRINCIPLES FOR DECISION-MAKING IN RELATIONSHIPS
HOW TO MAKE BIG DECISIONS AS A FAMILY
Facilitator's Guide to Participatory Decision-Making and its scale of agreement
Include emotional labor and executive function labor!
Stuck doing all the household chores? This practical guide can help.
25+ Everyday Ways to Build Executive Functioning Skills
Best Apps and Sites for Improving Executive Function
External memory aids
Executive Functioning Skills for Kids to Adults
EF Toolkit Site - Resources for Executive Functions
Think about how you handle decisions ...
Are some things always one person's responsibility, and if so, do other people have a similar number of different responsibilities? If there are genuine differences in skills and interests, then it makes sense to assign decisions to people who will do them well. Also some things, such as a family coordination calendar, are best kept by one person; but that should be balanced by other people taking similar-sized projects elsewhere, like tracking when to plant what in landscaping.
With items of mutual interest, such as "What shall we have for supper?" do people share equally in the discussion? Is someone(s) typically shut out and stuck with what someone(s) else decides? Or is someone(s) stuck doing all the decision-making when that is tiresome?
What level of executive function ability, skills, and energy do people have? Young people need time to grow into this, but if you do everything for them as they grow up, they will not learn those skills for themselves. Sometimes older people get less good at executive functions. Some disabilities or medications wreck it too. Don't put weight on people if they genuinely cannot handle it; that's not only crushing, it leads to a lot of avoidable problems. There are tools that can help with executive functions, such as a choreboard. There are ways to learn mental skills. Make sure you are assigning tasks to people who can do them well, and that you are not overloading anyone. And if someone didn't learn skills growing up? Don't yell or make fun of them; show them how to do stuff.
Make a point of showing appreciation for things people do in your life. "For better or for worse, never for granted."
Ten Best Ethical Decision Making Models
Ethical Decision Making Tools
YOUR DECISION, MY DECISION, OUR DECISION: 3 PRINCIPLES FOR DECISION-MAKING IN RELATIONSHIPS
HOW TO MAKE BIG DECISIONS AS A FAMILY
Facilitator's Guide to Participatory Decision-Making and its scale of agreement
Include emotional labor and executive function labor!
Stuck doing all the household chores? This practical guide can help.
25+ Everyday Ways to Build Executive Functioning Skills
Best Apps and Sites for Improving Executive Function
External memory aids
Executive Functioning Skills for Kids to Adults
EF Toolkit Site - Resources for Executive Functions
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Date: 2023-11-04 09:14 am (UTC)Fixed!
Date: 2023-11-04 09:45 am (UTC)