>>That makes it challenging because people will have such diverse ideas of what is appropriate when and with whom.<<
If the base rule is "try not to make others uncomftorable" that's a good starting point.
We would, occasionally and unintentionally, do minorly annoying things by each other's standards (think getting in people's space b/c proxemics).
There were a few bigger/serious instances, but the folks in charge were usually good about stepping in if someone felt hurt, and you wouldn't have to interact with the person after if you didn't want to.
Notes:
- If someone's body language suddenly goes from cheerful/relaxed to reserved, fearful or agressive that is a warning sign, and you back off.
- If someone keeps dodging a question, or giving a reflective response, they may not be comfortable discussing the topic.
- Theres a friendly-agressive tone, the "I demand you come have fun" tone. If someone is interrogating or inviting in this tone, check if the other participants need backup.
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Re: Thoughts
Date: 2021-11-26 04:11 am (UTC)If the base rule is "try not to make others uncomftorable" that's a good starting point.
We would, occasionally and unintentionally, do minorly annoying things by each other's standards (think getting in people's space b/c proxemics).
There were a few bigger/serious instances, but the folks in charge were usually good about stepping in if someone felt hurt, and you wouldn't have to interact with the person after if you didn't want to.
Notes:
- If someone's body language suddenly goes from cheerful/relaxed to reserved, fearful or agressive that is a warning sign, and you back off.
- If someone keeps dodging a question, or giving a reflective response, they may not be comfortable discussing the topic.
- Theres a friendly-agressive tone, the "I demand you come have fun" tone. If someone is interrogating or inviting in this tone, check if the other participants need backup.