Coping Skills: Encouragement

[ysabetwordsmith]

Folks have mentioned an interest in questions and conversations that make them think. So I've decided to offer more of those. This is the current list of coping skills.

10. Encourage others.

https://www.wikihow.com/Encourage-People

https://thelife.com/19-ways-to-encourage-others

https://anextraordinaryday.net/52-practical-and-thoughtful-ways-to-encourage-others/

https://www.wikihow.com/Compliment-People

https://www.happier.com/blog/nice-things-to-say-100-compliments/

https://redtri.com/things-you-should-say-to-your-kids-every-day

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

If you have a true and kind thought about someone, tell them! And tell them you appreciate them when they do something nice.

Someone said I was a kind person the other day, and it made me very happy.

:)

Yes ...

[ysabetwordsmith]

Important marital skill: tell people that you appreciate the tedious shit they do, like washing dishes, especially if it's a task they don't even like doing. Nobody wants to be taken for granted.

Re: Yes ...

[(Anonymous)]

Works in non-marital contexts too:

I know someone who insists that the caregivee in a familial caregiver/caregiver relationship should say please and thank you instead of just going "do this, do that, I want..."

I insist that my volunteering clients don't just hand me a pile of work and wander off - I want them to stay and be part of the process of my untangling red tape (which also helps if I need information or permissions from them.)

One of the medical people always in and out of the house and I have a mutual "I appreciate [X-extra-effort thing you did]" sort of exchange every so often.

And back when I worked retail, we would really notice the people who treated us nicely, like people, instead of like NPC characters. Nowadays, customer service folks seem really surprised when I wish them a good rest of their shift or similar.