Read "PleasureABLE"

[ysabetwordsmith]

I found an online manual about sex toys for people with disabilities.  :D  Sexual pleasure is a right that everyone should be able to enjoy as desired.  Includes items for solo and team sports!

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[acelightning]

Now we need to incorporate some of these devices into wheelchair dancing!

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[ysabetwordsmith]

I have seen some very hawt wheelchair dancing.

I also have a scene in mind with Simon helping Armando buff up his "sex service for disabled clients" skills. So if you want to prompt for that including adult toys, it's totally doable.

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[acelightning]

I remember you linked to one wheelchair dance where they did a perfect tango, with every possible erotic nuance. I guess you can consider this a prompt...

[This is so funny I have to mention it. My grown son is a clinical psychologist, and he does have some disabled clients - and some disabled friends. I would love to give him that article as a resource - but me sending it to him would just be too weird.]

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[ng_moonmoth]

Your son is an adult. He most likely has sex. And yes, I know that many moms have this eternal hangup about recalling when their children were these little, totally dependent creatures. And that many children have a similar hangup about their parents even being aware of sex, let alone the never having had sex that their very existence refutes.

So let's reframe this a bit. You have found something that you believe is a valuable resource for your son in his professional career, and you want to share it with him. When I put it this way, it's easy for me to see it as an act of love. So, unless your son would be weirded out by the manual being about sex, send it to him in love.

Yes, I went and took a look. Yes, there are drawings of stylized people in the act of sexual congress. You may well know whether that would bother your son. If it doesn't bother him, he can probably deal with it coming from Mom.

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[acelightning]

Well, he knows that I'm weird ;-). I'll do it, right now.

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[ng_moonmoth]

Great! I'd appreciate hearing how it turned out, if you're OK with that.

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[acelightning]

He hasn't replied yet. I' let you all know onde I hear from him.

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[acelightning]

He phoned me a little while ago, and he said it didn't weird him out at all. He's used to me :-)

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[ysabetwordsmith]

Yay! Spreading resources is good.

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[acelightning]

He and his wife are two of the most sex-positive people I know. And I hope the information on that page gets spread to anyone who can benefit from it.

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[ng_moonmoth]

Great! Hope he finds it useful.

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[acelightning]

I'm pretty sure he will!

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[acelightning]

I know he will.

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[acelightning]

He said it looks like a useful set of suggestions.

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[ysabetwordsmith]

Yay! I'm happy to hear that.

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[acelightning]

Well, he's learned by now that he can't possibly outweird me, although a few of his friends have tried. I've just had a lot more practice ;-)

Thanks for sharing!

[erulisse]

*adds to list of professional resources*

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[ysabetwordsmith]

For professional use, I also highly recommend introducing the idea of pervertibles. It's the best example in out-of-the-box thinking on what constitutes a sex toy. Since disabled people tend to rely on creative thinking just to get through the day, this is a good jump-start not only for finding non-kinky sex toys but also for looking at ordinary things in general as possible adaptive equipment that does not cost a mint. Remember me linking to lift-top coffee tables and craft desks? That kind of thing.

[kengr]

I was happy to see the Wahl vibrator listed. After a cheap knockoff broke after a couple of months I bought a Wahl. Lasted 20 years. My second one may outlive me. :-)

And some of the assistive stuff looks useful even if you aren't disabled.

Thoughts

[ysabetwordsmith]

>> Lasted 20 years. My second one may outlive me. :-)

Impressive!

>> And some of the assistive stuff looks useful even if you aren't disabled.<<

Also useful for:

* Partners of widely different size/shape
* Lengthy sessions to avoid cramps
* Pregnant people
* People with current injuries
* People with old injuries that get bothersome only if aggravated
* Most folks from middle age onward
* Sexual athletics
* Just to try something new
* In a few cases like glass/metal dildos, as objects of art

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[kengr]

>>> Lasted 20 years. My second one may outlive me. :-)

Impressive!<<<

Well, I did have to open it up a few times to shorten the power cord a few inches (the wires tend to break where they exit the case in spite of good strain relief). But that only takes a screwdriver and a knife.

The cheap one had the "stud" that the heads attach to break off.

When the Wahl had to be replaced it was because wear was causing the innards to rattle against the case making a *painfully* annoying noise.

>>> And some of the assistive stuff looks useful even if you aren't disabled.<<

Also useful for:

* Partners of widely different size/shape
* Lengthy sessions to avoid cramps
* Pregnant people
* People with current injuries
* People with old injuries that get bothersome only if aggravated
* Most folks from middle age onward
* Sexual athletics
* Just to try something new
* In a few cases like glass/metal dildos, as objects of art<<<

Yeah, some things like that shoulder sling would relieve a lot of strain in some positions.

Oh a fun thing that might be of use to some disabled folks is the "Monkey Rocker". It's a sort of padded seat with a slot down the middle. The seat slide forwards and back, and that uses a lever assembly to move an attached dildo up and down in an arc that fits well with the way you want something going in and out of various lower orifices.

There's also a handle on one handle you you can rock it by hand instead of using your legs.

Amazingly sturdy as well. Handles 400 lb easily (I don't weigh *that* much, but I know folks)

Alas there are still size issues with toys. For everyone, there are issues with chest, waist and hip sizes. Various sorts of harnesses don't go large enough (or I suspect *small* enough either).

Given I know adults who have 60" or larger waists, and others who can fit in cub scout or brownie uniforms....

My pet peeve is the assumptions regarding male genitals and regarding "breast" sizes and shapes.

Far too many things meant attach to a penis fall off on some people because they are thinner than expected. There are folks less than 1.5" diameter people! There are also folks built like beer cans :-)

Likewise, "breast" harnesses that expect a sharp definition between the breast and the chest (so they don't "tighten around the base" instead they just slip up and off)

Also people with large testicles exist. Having rings or straps that won't fit rule out a lot of toys. Probably true for small ones too.

And large penis doesn't mean large testicles (or vice versa)

We *really* need someone to do ergonomic research on "intimate" sizes and shapes, and what the distributions are.

Oh yeah, that vibrator research they refer to. I wish some of that info was published because I've heard from various sources that the "right" frequencies are not the ones usually found in commercial products. Especially for guys.