Sex Toys for Transwomen and Nonbinaries

[ysabetwordsmith]

This extensive review article profiles many sex toys for people with different bodies.  Ace/aro folks who enjoy autoerotic activities may also appreciate the generally practical and non-genital appearance in some of these toys.  It's your body, enjoy it!

Not Safe For Work in most professions.  

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Re: Good practices are hard

[flamingsword]

You are welcome and I get it.

I am doing cognitive behavioral therapy journaling under friend-lock over on my journal, partially to process and retrain myself away from these same reactions and reflexive navel-gazing that centers *me* as the problem instead of society itself. I'll give you access in case you want to do it with us.

It is easy to think "everyone I can see thinks this cis-hetero-normative way about it", but that is actually two different logical fallacies jammed together. Visibility bias against the people like us who are hard to see and thus get discounted plus the bandwagon effect of thinking everyone is supposed to go along with what is popular like we are all the same - that shit is really hard to puzzle your way out of from the inside, especially in a culture that teaches rugged individualism and the internalization of shaming messages and victim blaming.

It's really hard to market things to fix you as a person to people who don't feel they need to be fixed. So the media and advertising have to make you feel ashamed and broken. They know it is bad for people's mental health but screwing people over for money seems to be a fundamental facet of capitalism. The advertising industry in particular has so much to answer for.

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Re: Good practices are hard

[lb_lee]

Sure, thank you! Yeah, now that I've calmed down, I'm impressed at how well you de-escalated this conversation, and feel like I have some new tricks to learn for sure! Well done!

Re: Good practices are hard

[flamingsword]

Thank you. I have a tattoo on my right wrist for the specific purpose of reminding me to be merciful. It's good to know that I am finally doing well at internalizing that message.