I am doing cognitive behavioral therapy journaling under friend-lock over on my journal, partially to process and retrain myself away from these same reactions and reflexive navel-gazing that centers *me* as the problem instead of society itself. I'll give you access in case you want to do it with us.
It is easy to think "everyone I can see thinks this cis-hetero-normative way about it", but that is actually two different logical fallacies jammed together. Visibility bias against the people like us who are hard to see and thus get discounted plus the bandwagon effect of thinking everyone is supposed to go along with what is popular like we are all the same - that shit is really hard to puzzle your way out of from the inside, especially in a culture that teaches rugged individualism and the internalization of shaming messages and victim blaming.
It's really hard to market things to fix you as a person to people who don't feel they need to be fixed. So the media and advertising have to make you feel ashamed and broken. They know it is bad for people's mental health but screwing people over for money seems to be a fundamental facet of capitalism. The advertising industry in particular has so much to answer for.
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Re: Good practices are hard
Date: 2020-01-19 04:31 pm (UTC)I am doing cognitive behavioral therapy journaling under friend-lock over on my journal, partially to process and retrain myself away from these same reactions and reflexive navel-gazing that centers *me* as the problem instead of society itself. I'll give you access in case you want to do it with us.
It is easy to think "everyone I can see thinks this cis-hetero-normative way about it", but that is actually two different logical fallacies jammed together. Visibility bias against the people like us who are hard to see and thus get discounted plus the bandwagon effect of thinking everyone is supposed to go along with what is popular like we are all the same - that shit is really hard to puzzle your way out of from the inside, especially in a culture that teaches rugged individualism and the internalization of shaming messages and victim blaming.
It's really hard to market things to fix you as a person to people who don't feel they need to be fixed. So the media and advertising have to make you feel ashamed and broken. They know it is bad for people's mental health but screwing people over for money seems to be a fundamental facet of capitalism. The advertising industry in particular has so much to answer for.
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