Gender experiences can also be super confusing and sometimes very unhappy. However, in my observation, they get a lot less confusing and unhappy when you stop trying to fake it and start being yourself -- even if it takes you a while to figure out what that is and how to do it. At least you're not purposely going the wrong way any more.
That's what worries me a bit about Cal still presenting as Calvin a lot of the time. Cal already knows that cismale is not the accurate identity. Pretending to be something you're not takes effort. But then again, maybe Cal is getting something out of it or wouldn't still be doing it now that there's another option.
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dancing_serpent
Re: Thank you!
Date: 2018-12-13 04:12 am (UTC)That's what worries me a bit about Cal still presenting as Calvin a lot of the time. Cal already knows that cismale is not the accurate identity. Pretending to be something you're not takes effort. But then again, maybe Cal is getting something out of it or wouldn't still be doing it now that there's another option.
One thing gender isn't: simple.