Britain's had OAP/Senior bus passes for ages, virtually all of Europe has something similar...it never occurred to me that the USA didn't! The pensioner using their bus pass to go to bingo or the senior social club with his/her mates is that much of a stereotype...
physical contact, warmth and closeness between parents and their babies is discouraged and the americans wonder why their children grow up to be so unhappy
tfw emotional neglect is literally a cultural value
(we are still angry that 'controlled crying' is seen as a good thing to do to babies and that things like co-sleeping, baby-wearing, etc are seen as bad! never mind that those things are normal in many cultures and correct cosleeping is the biggest reduction factor for SIDS! It's mostly the west and some highly west-influenced societies who are so contact-averse with their babies)
>> physical contact, warmth and closeness between parents and their babies is discouraged and the americans wonder why their children grow up to be so unhappy <<
I suspect that the increasing rules to criminalize healthy touch of children, which basically mandate a variety of physical and emotional neglect, play directly into skyrocketing mental illness and suicide rates.
>> tfw emotional neglect is literally a cultural value <<
Increasingly, so is greed. I'm seeing more and more advertisements that praise and encourage it.
>> (we are still angry that 'controlled crying' is seen as a good thing to do to babies and that things like co-sleeping, baby-wearing, etc are seen as bad! <<
I agree, that's a problem.
>> never mind that those things are normal in many cultures and correct cosleeping is the biggest reduction factor for SIDS! It's mostly the west and some highly west-influenced societies who are so contact-averse with their babies) <<
Very young babies need biological signals to help regulate their new bodies. Without that, they may fumble it and die. They also need lots of love and attention. Without that, even a soul in a healthy body may conclude that it's not wanted and split.
Hey, I am totally up for monkeywrenching that shit. I watch commercials about greed and go write commercials about community. I read articles about banning touch and go write characters touching each other in healthy ways.
Sidestep your enemy's attack. Strike back directly at their goal.
It's the basis of my Poke a Bigot in the Eye routine too. When people want there to be less of something I value, then I make more of it and encourage others to do likewise.
If you value healthy touch, you might look for a cuddle party or backrub club, etc. Or if they don't have one in your area, start something. Lots of people are desperate for healthy touch. Workshops are another option if you think people are low on the basic skills.
I tried looking for instructions but the official cuddle parties all sound weird and stuffy.
Happily, the ultimate guide to snuggling can be found online. I suggest you use the Cuddle Sutra for inspiration. It has everything from very minimal contact to full-body positions. Then just tell people to use the basic consent guidelines of "Ask first, and take no for an answer."
For folks who want emotional intimacy, keep lists of questions to start conversations:
>>your society is managing to do both at the same time.<<
Yeah, this.
At least the Seattle area has a discounted transit pass for seniors - costs about a quarter as much as full fare, and it's good on trains as well as buses. And here on Whidbey Island the buses are free :(but they only run on weekdays).
I will say that, here, som places are better than oothers. Indy's public transit sucks if you're not down town; the door to door bus service leaves something to be desired.
But in places like ZSeattle and Denver/surrounding areas, it's pretty damned good.
I've heard Ohio's pretty good, too, but I wouldn't know.
Tallahassee's not bad, either.
But...yeah some places (Such as Carmel) have *none whatsoever*, and it sucks.
Agreed, it is quite patchy. I know that Bloomington, Illinois and Champaign-Urbana, Illinois are well above average for accessibility. I don't know how much of the transportation is free, but they do have accessible vans and people with various disabilities are highly visible around town.
Having lived between Denver and aurora (Our address was an Aurora one) I'm not surprised,actually. I didn't necessarily have problems with my allergies, I'd never felt so damn freee in a city, and had I been able to find a job, we'd still be out there.
I cansee it being...to appoint-altheough those with superabilities, depending on what they are, may still move out because of the fork/whatever discrimination they might get, especially for those who choose to use their abilities to compensate for what they can't do with the disability. I could se it being an engriguing place to put a cricketed blueplate (as oxymoronic as that sounds) and get creative on how they keep their ability hidden, yet find way to use it at the same time where no one notices. :)
It would depend on the person, I would think, honestly, and whether or not they are a nary, or don't want to be outed a soup-anything.
>> I cansee it being...to appoint-altheough those with superabilities, depending on what they are, may still move out because of the fork/whatever discrimination they might get, <<
Yes, that's true.
>> especially for those who choose to use their abilities to compensate for what they can't do with the disability.<<
There are a number of characters who have both superpowers and disabilities. Sometimes there's compensation, other times not. Handspring has no legs, and travels by teleporting or walking on her hands.
>> I could se it being an engriguing place to put a cricketed blueplate (as oxymoronic as that sounds) and get creative on how they keep their ability hidden, yet find way to use it at the same time where no one notices. :) <<
When I first worked out the numbers, I didn't list blue plates as a separate category. They don't have the public attention of cape politics, so they aren't tracked in Terramagne culture. I tend to count first responder blue plates among superheroes and other types among crickets. But the shifting social environment means that this category is growing. Eventually it's likely to be something around 1/3 crickets, 1/3 blue plates, 1/3 cape politics.
Feel free to prompt for any of this if it interests you. I saved notes on which cities were disability-friendly.
It's even better when you have your *own* transport... although some big metro areas you really don't need it. NYC, Chicago, Atlanta to a certain extent, Portland... the better part of all of England... but, yeah, if you live out in the toolies, you're gonna need a car/bike/motorbike or *something*...
Even in Seattle, unless you live in Seattle-proper, bus is inadequate. You end up having to ride a shuttle-sized bus into a transit centre, switch, maybe even go to *another* transit centre, switch AGAIN, and then get where you're going. And g-d help you if you cross a county line. Getting to the ferry docks is no fun either... 'cept the one downtown, and even then, it's steep uphills to get back..
A lot of the assisted-living facilities have buses to take their people into town to go shop, etc. but that's more like running errands than it is having fun. :/
That's why I miss Denver area. It didn't matter where you were. There were even a couple buses that went to C. Springs and boulder. Pit you if you missed one, but they were still around for those who needed them. (Thankfully, while we were there we didn't have to worry about that, but)
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Date: 2018-02-09 11:16 am (UTC)Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-09 11:26 am (UTC)Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-09 01:09 pm (UTC)physical contact, warmth and closeness between parents and their babies is discouraged and the americans wonder why their children grow up to be so unhappy
tfw emotional neglect is literally a cultural value
(we are still angry that 'controlled crying' is seen as a good thing to do to babies and that things like co-sleeping, baby-wearing, etc are seen as bad! never mind that those things are normal in many cultures and correct cosleeping is the biggest reduction factor for SIDS! It's mostly the west and some highly west-influenced societies who are so contact-averse with their babies)
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-09 09:28 pm (UTC)Sadly so.
>> physical contact, warmth and closeness between parents and their babies is discouraged and the americans wonder why their children grow up to be so unhappy <<
I suspect that the increasing rules to criminalize healthy touch of children, which basically mandate a variety of physical and emotional neglect, play directly into skyrocketing mental illness and suicide rates.
>> tfw emotional neglect is literally a cultural value <<
Increasingly, so is greed. I'm seeing more and more advertisements that praise and encourage it.
>> (we are still angry that 'controlled crying' is seen as a good thing to do to babies and that things like co-sleeping, baby-wearing, etc are seen as bad! <<
I agree, that's a problem.
>> never mind that those things are normal in many cultures and correct cosleeping is the biggest reduction factor for SIDS! It's mostly the west and some highly west-influenced societies who are so contact-averse with their babies) <<
Very young babies need biological signals to help regulate their new bodies. Without that, they may fumble it and die. They also need lots of love and attention. Without that, even a soul in a healthy body may conclude that it's not wanted and split.
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-10 03:06 am (UTC)Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-10 03:16 am (UTC)Sidestep your enemy's attack. Strike back directly at their goal.
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-10 03:20 am (UTC)Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-10 03:27 am (UTC)If you value healthy touch, you might look for a cuddle party or backrub club, etc. Or if they don't have one in your area, start something. Lots of people are desperate for healthy touch. Workshops are another option if you think people are low on the basic skills.
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-10 03:33 am (UTC)i dont have anybody in my life who hugs me for me and means it
all i have is system members who try but we cant feel it in headspace
cuddle party is such a good idea
(tho perhaps i should not cuddle rn bc im very sick lol. maybe after i get better :p )
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-10 03:49 am (UTC)Happily, the ultimate guide to snuggling can be found online. I suggest you use the Cuddle Sutra for inspiration. It has everything from very minimal contact to full-body positions. Then just tell people to use the basic consent guidelines of "Ask first, and take no for an answer."
For folks who want emotional intimacy, keep lists of questions to start conversations:
http://bigthink.com/ideafeed/how-to-fall-in-love-36-questions-and-deep-eye-contact
http://www.lovetripper.com/ARTICLES/a.intellforeplay.html
https://museumhack.com/list-icebreakers-questions/
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-10 04:06 am (UTC)Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-09 02:08 pm (UTC)OTOH, they do say that America is the only nation that went from Barbarism to Decadence without the intervening stage of being civilised.
Personally, I think that's a bit unfairly limiting, and your society is managing to do both at the same time.
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-09 03:49 pm (UTC)Yeah, this.
At least the Seattle area has a discounted transit pass for seniors - costs about a quarter as much as full fare, and it's good on trains as well as buses. And here on Whidbey Island the buses are free :(but they only run on weekdays).
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-09 04:14 pm (UTC)But in places like ZSeattle and Denver/surrounding areas, it's pretty damned good.
I've heard Ohio's pretty good, too, but I wouldn't know.
Tallahassee's not bad, either.
But...yeah some places (Such as Carmel) have *none whatsoever*, and it sucks.
-Fallon~
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-09 08:40 pm (UTC)Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-09 09:20 pm (UTC)It finally occurred to me to look this up and see if anyone had done the equivalent of a walkability score for accessibility. This is the closest I found:
https://wallethub.com/edu/best-worst-cities-for-people-with-disabilities/7164/
I'm surprised to find Denver topping this one. Based on that, though, I would suspect that the Heights is a hotspot for people with disabilities in Terramagne.
http://www.newmobility.com/1997/12/10-disability-friendly-cities-where-to-live-and-why/
Here is a guide to Deaf-friendly cities:
http://www.deaf411online.com/reports/page4.php
This is a list of cities that support citizens with vision impairment:
https://www.visionaware.org/blog/visually-impaired-now-what/determining-the-livability-of-communities-for-people-with-vision-loss/12
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-10 05:19 am (UTC)I cansee it being...to appoint-altheough those with superabilities, depending on what they are, may still move out because of the fork/whatever discrimination they might get, especially for those who choose to use their abilities to compensate for what they can't do with the disability. I could se it being an engriguing place to put a cricketed blueplate (as oxymoronic as that sounds) and get creative on how they keep their ability hidden, yet find way to use it at the same time where no one notices. :)
It would depend on the person, I would think, honestly, and whether or not they are a nary, or don't want to be outed a soup-anything.
-Fallon~
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-10 06:49 pm (UTC)Yes, that's true.
>> especially for those who choose to use their abilities to compensate for what they can't do with the disability.<<
There are a number of characters who have both superpowers and disabilities. Sometimes there's compensation, other times not. Handspring has no legs, and travels by teleporting or walking on her hands.
>> I could se it being an engriguing place to put a cricketed blueplate (as oxymoronic as that sounds) and get creative on how they keep their ability hidden, yet find way to use it at the same time where no one notices. :) <<
When I first worked out the numbers, I didn't list blue plates as a separate category. They don't have the public attention of cape politics, so they aren't tracked in Terramagne culture. I tend to count first responder blue plates among superheroes and other types among crickets. But the shifting social environment means that this category is growing. Eventually it's likely to be something around 1/3 crickets, 1/3 blue plates, 1/3 cape politics.
Feel free to prompt for any of this if it interests you. I saved notes on which cities were disability-friendly.
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-09 09:22 pm (UTC)Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-09 09:55 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2018-02-09 10:09 pm (UTC)Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-09 10:41 pm (UTC)* The bus system sucks.
* So people don't use it much.
* So it loses money.
* In attempt to make it more profitable, the city raises bus fare.
* Which makes more people stop riding the bus.
* So they raise prices again, and cut services further.
* Continue until collapse.
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2018-02-10 03:08 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2018-02-09 05:54 pm (UTC)Even in Seattle, unless you live in Seattle-proper, bus is inadequate. You end up having to ride a shuttle-sized bus into a transit centre, switch, maybe even go to *another* transit centre, switch AGAIN, and then get where you're going. And g-d help you if you cross a county line. Getting to the ferry docks is no fun either... 'cept the one downtown, and even then, it's steep uphills to get back..
A lot of the assisted-living facilities have buses to take their people into town to go shop, etc. but that's more like running errands than it is having fun. :/
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Date: 2018-02-09 07:08 pm (UTC)-Fallon~