>> Thankfually the peeps we movin' in wid git mah triggers. Been good about makin' me not feel stupid for'em.<<
That's good.
>> I hate when triggers fuck me up. :/ <<
Everyone who has triggers hates them. When you get into a safer environment, you can work on smoothing them down some, and over time they'll bother you less.
>> Y-Ya sho? <<
Quite sure. Everyone gets hurt sometimes, which means everyone needs to cry. It can be messy and unpleasant, but it's like throwing up -- that's what happens when you swallow something that isn't good for you, and it's less awful than leaving it in there.
>> Gunna git bad if I let go really. *he looks up at her*...ya serious, ain't ya. <<
I am serious, and yes, people who haven't had a good cry in a long time tend to release a flood. That's okay. I've been cried on before. The cuddle room has been cried in before. If you fall apart in here, most that'll happen is folks asking how you are and if you want a fresh shoulder or hankie.
>>Mah Fallon's family's...dey bettah people. I love mah Cassie. She my OSO an'...we had some serious shit for a while, but we done got past it an' we really damn close now. Cool an' shit. Dat mah girl :) <<
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Re: Does virtual touch make you feel better?
Date: 2018-01-19 07:31 am (UTC)Yay!
>> Thankfually the peeps we movin' in wid git mah triggers. Been good about makin' me not feel stupid for'em.<<
That's good.
>> I hate when triggers fuck me up. :/ <<
Everyone who has triggers hates them. When you get into a safer environment, you can work on smoothing them down some, and over time they'll bother you less.
>> Y-Ya sho? <<
Quite sure. Everyone gets hurt sometimes, which means everyone needs to cry. It can be messy and unpleasant, but it's like throwing up -- that's what happens when you swallow something that isn't good for you, and it's less awful than leaving it in there.
Telling boys not to cry is harmful. Men need to cry too. (Everyone does.) Lack of touch is destructive to men's mental and physical health. (This is true for mammals in general.) It's caused by everything from homophobia to fear of sexual complaints. Men need more touch than they usually get. This is a problem, because touch starvation correlates with more violence. Basically, if you don't express your emotions and connect with other people, that makes it harder to understand and control your urges.
>> Gunna git bad if I let go really.
*he looks up at her*...ya serious, ain't ya. <<
I am serious, and yes, people who haven't had a good cry in a long time tend to release a flood. That's okay. I've been cried on before. The cuddle room has been cried in before. If you fall apart in here, most that'll happen is folks asking how you are and if you want a fresh shoulder or hankie.
>>Mah Fallon's family's...dey bettah people. I love mah Cassie. She my OSO an'...we had some serious shit for a while, but we done got past it an' we really damn close now. Cool an' shit. Dat mah girl :) <<
That's good. Support helps.