Hard Things

[ysabetwordsmith]

Life is full of things which are hard or tedious or otherwise unpleasant that need doing anyhow. They help make the world go 'round, they improve skills, and they boost your sense of self-respect. But doing them still kinda sucks. It's all the more difficult to do those things when nobody appreciates it. Happily, blogging allows us to share our accomplishments and pat each other on the back.

What are some of the hard things you've done recently? What are some hard things you haven't gotten to yet, but need to do?

Comments

Re: Thoughts

[batdina]

for what it's worth: I had a female officer when I needed victim assistance, and it wasn't appreciably better than having a male would have been. then again, the trauma center I was sent to was absolutely awesome, and the female social worker was a Godsend.

Re: Thoughts

[ysabetwordsmith]

That's why I mentioned individual comfort. Sometimes the guy is just better; having two X chromosomes doesn't magically make someone more compassionate. However, it remains true that many victims have a strong gender preference when it comes to discussing intimate crimes. Failing to address that need does clinically measurable harm to victim comfort and policing quality, based on the studies now being used to recommend improvements.

I'm glad that you found a trauma center that helped! Many areas now have something like that, and the more focused training can make a big difference.

Re: Thoughts

[batdina]

don't get me wrong; even though she was horrible, I wouldn't have said boo if the officer had been male. during the rape kit they sent a male intern, and I wouldn't let him get near me. they found another resident who kept saying "I'm not good at this" and I kept saying I didn't care about that. so I totally know what you mean about it helping even a little bit.

Re: Thoughts

[ysabetwordsmith]

What an awful mess. O_O

We really need better trauma-informed care. I mean seriously, I am better at this than many professionals, and health care is one of my worst subjects. *shaaaaaame*

Re: Thoughts

[we_are_spc]

I had a woman take me back and fourth, but the d3etective taking our statement was definitely *not* female.

That said, I'm glad you had a traumna center that was that awesome.

-Fallon~

Re: Thoughts

[batdina]

I needed an ambulance for getting to the hospital. And the trauma center here is the same one where they send shotgun victims, so it was very professional, etc. I just remember that social worker with very warm feelings. she was there the entire time, unobtrusively, and took care of whatever BS there was to handle. I wish I remembered her name.

sorry you had a rough[er] than necessary time of it.