Charging for Emotional Labor

[ysabetwordsmith]

Here's an interesting post about emotional labor, sex work, money, and feminism.

Emotional labor is real work.  It takes time and effort.  If you do it, you should be getting something for it: enjoyment, favors, cash, whatever floats your boat.  Marriages generally run more on barter than cash, although the financial benefits are common too.  Sex work is more pay-as-you-play ... but yes, really,  men absolutely do turn to sex workers for attention, comfort, reassurance, fake love, emotional support, etc. in addition to orgasms.  Some guys just want to get off, but a lot of guys want to get off while talking about how their wife/girlfriend/woman-who-doesn't-know-they-exist doesn't appreciate them.

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[alexseanchai]

I don't know how to Storify and also one of the links isn't from Twitter so instead I shall linkspam:

https://modelviewculture.com/pieces/giveyourmoneytowomen-the-end-game-of-capitalism
https://twitter.com/ChiefElk/status/669528844685078528
https://twitter.com/ChiefElk/status/669528989623386112
https://twitter.com/ChiefElk/status/669529877167542272
https://twitter.com/ainedomini/status/669263822251646976
https://twitter.com/ainedomini/status/669266339656110080
https://twitter.com/ainedomini/status/669266853361881089
https://twitter.com/YeoshinLourdes/status/669531669775323136
https://twitter.com/YeoshinLourdes/status/669537039554125824
https://twitter.com/YeoshinLourdes/status/669537406949924865
https://twitter.com/YeoshinLourdes/status/669537996060893185
https://twitter.com/ChiefElk/status/669546568643555328
https://twitter.com/ChiefElk/status/669546863104692224
https://twitter.com/ChiefElk/status/669548153700380673
https://twitter.com/ChiefElk/status/669549390931988480
https://twitter.com/ChiefElk/status/669549830843138048

tl;dr: that post does not, at all, anywhere, cite the #GiveYourMoneyToWomen hashtag or its creators (Lauren Chief Elk and Yeoshin Lourdes, both tweeting above, and Bardot Smith), even though that post is using their uncompensated labor.

[mdlbear]

Interesting. Yeah; Shakti seems to be going somewhat out of her way to avoid mentioning #GiveYourMoneyToWomen, in spite of very clearly being aware of it.

The article in The Toast mentioned in the first tweet above is: "Where's My Cut?": On Unpaid Emotional Labor.

[technoshaman.livejournal.com]

We had it drilled into our heads early, you don't charge for the magic, but you *do* charge for your time.

[cissa.livejournal.com]

YES.

At this point, my husband and I have more-or-less settled on an exchange where I do most to all of the remembering/organizing/scheduling, and he does the lion's share of the implementation in many areas. He's awful at the keeping track- but that's real work, too, and now it's being counted as such rather than as "nagging".