>> But most women don't learn that kind of independence until their "middle years". A lucky few go through it in college/college age... Most seem to "get it" when their kids are teens, or right in that age window. <<
Well, yeah, if you have to start from scratch it can take decades to figure out that stuff.
Me, I had ulterior information. It's much harder to snow someone who has access to other cultures, even if those aren't in the same world as the surrounding one. It may have taken me a while to assemble a patch for a major missing function in an area that's not my best, but I had no difficulty recognizing the bullshit immediately. That alone put me ahead of almost everyone else.
>> I set out to have ONE set of rules regardless of gender. <<
Good plan. That's how I go. I've said to people of widely varied ages, "You are not going to sit there doing nothing and let all the female-bodied people clean up. Get in here and do your fair share of the work." (Or conversely, pushing women to help the guys.) Your sex chromosomes are not a free pass.
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Date: 2014-05-03 05:26 am (UTC)Well, yeah, if you have to start from scratch it can take decades to figure out that stuff.
Me, I had ulterior information. It's much harder to snow someone who has access to other cultures, even if those aren't in the same world as the surrounding one. It may have taken me a while to assemble a patch for a major missing function in an area that's not my best, but I had no difficulty recognizing the bullshit immediately. That alone put me ahead of almost everyone else.
>> I set out to have ONE set of rules regardless of gender. <<
Good plan. That's how I go. I've said to people of widely varied ages, "You are not going to sit there doing nothing and let all the female-bodied people clean up. Get in here and do your fair share of the work." (Or conversely, pushing women to help the guys.) Your sex chromosomes are not a free pass.