But most women don't learn that kind of independence until their "middle years". A lucky few go through it in college/college age... Most seem to "get it" when their kids are teens, or right in that age window.
I know for a FACT that, /because/ I sat down and thought about how I wanted to raise this not-yet-here-little-human, I set out to have ONE set of rules regardless of gender. You kick at the limitations that become horribly, invasively, obnoxiously VISIBLE for long enough when doing that, and you get to the "talk to the hand" stage of social interactions pretty quickly as a self-protective measure.
Now, I'm just really getting to ENJOY "I don't buy into your crap, peddle it someplace else." as a DEFAULT mode for stuff that used to make me climb the WALLS. (Fortunately, figurative climbing of figurative walls. Spidey I am not.)
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Date: 2014-05-03 05:08 am (UTC)I know for a FACT that, /because/ I sat down and thought about how I wanted to raise this not-yet-here-little-human, I set out to have ONE set of rules regardless of gender. You kick at the limitations that become horribly, invasively, obnoxiously VISIBLE for long enough when doing that, and you get to the "talk to the hand" stage of social interactions pretty quickly as a self-protective measure.
Now, I'm just really getting to ENJOY "I don't buy into your crap, peddle it someplace else." as a DEFAULT mode for stuff that used to make me climb the WALLS. (Fortunately, figurative climbing of figurative walls. Spidey I am not.)