Oh goodness yes, I agree with that; it's definitely the individuals involved. As I have possibly mentioned before, my ex simply refused to make any rules for our poly life because he didn't want to be limited. He thought he completely understood poly but really, really didn't. The reason he finally gave for not setting any rules was that he "couldn't think of anything I could do that would hurt him." It was at that point that the counselor and I looked at each other, rolled our eyes and pretty much gave up. He was the only one in his relationship which simply doesn't work in any configuration at all, poly or monogamous.
I will not hide who and what I am but it's hard enough to find someone who is compatible. I do know some wonderfully functional and loving poly families and it always takes teamwork and lots and lots of candid communication.
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dancing_serpent
Re: Thoughts
Date: 2011-07-03 03:31 am (UTC)I will not hide who and what I am but it's hard enough to find someone who is compatible. I do know some wonderfully functional and loving poly families and it always takes teamwork and lots and lots of candid communication.