>>I'm so glad she's keeping up the web-site. And that is a wonderful article.<<
Thank you!
>>I theoretically believe in Poly and *am* poly by nature but I've been so badly burned that I think I'm done with it. It's a shame but, unless the perfect partner who also is poly comes into my life, I'm just too tired and damaged to keep very hopeful about it.<<
I can sympathize. Bad experiences can easily make people reluctant to venture into remotely similar circumstances.
In my observation, however, polyamory has no higher failure rate than two-person marriage, or friendship, or family ties in general. Human beings have inherent, countervailing drives to care for each other and to screw people over. It depends more on the individuals involved, and their ethics and social skills, than their configuration.
I've seen a bunch of poly families, all kinds of couples, and assorted other family or social structures come together and stay or fall apart. I think my highest cynicism level is with teamwork, based on my experiences, which add up to other people are unreliable and marginally competent more often than not. The potential for social wreckage manifests the moment you add people to any situation.
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dancing_serpent
Thoughts
Date: 2011-07-03 03:10 am (UTC)Thank you!
>>I theoretically believe in Poly and *am* poly by nature but I've been so badly burned that I think I'm done with it. It's a shame but, unless the perfect partner who also is poly comes into my life, I'm just too tired and damaged to keep very hopeful about it.<<
I can sympathize. Bad experiences can easily make people reluctant to venture into remotely similar circumstances.
In my observation, however, polyamory has no higher failure rate than two-person marriage, or friendship, or family ties in general. Human beings have inherent, countervailing drives to care for each other and to screw people over. It depends more on the individuals involved, and their ethics and social skills, than their configuration.
I've seen a bunch of poly families, all kinds of couples, and assorted other family or social structures come together and stay or fall apart. I think my highest cynicism level is with teamwork, based on my experiences, which add up to other people are unreliable and marginally competent more often than not. The potential for social wreckage manifests the moment you add people to any situation.