I like the Relationship Bank Account metaphor. It is straightforward, easy to grasp, and far more people know what a bank account is than know what allogrooming is or its modern equivalent social media grooming. They understand that if you try to take out more money than you put in the bank, it gets overdrawn; so they can easily apply that concept to relationships.
A problem is that not everyone wants an equal relationship. Many are looking for people to use and abuse. But the RBA metaphor helps there too, by making it easier for victims to see that behavior as abuse and resource theft.
I like emotional watering too, but I suspect that's less effective nowadays when fewer people have gardens or even houseplants.
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dancing_serpent
Re: Yes ...
Date: 2023-04-17 06:57 pm (UTC)A problem is that not everyone wants an equal relationship. Many are looking for people to use and abuse. But the RBA metaphor helps there too, by making it easier for victims to see that behavior as abuse and resource theft.
I like emotional watering too, but I suspect that's less effective nowadays when fewer people have gardens or even houseplants.