I am a devout empiricist. I look for evidence. All feelings are valid, but not all feelings are accurate; they can lie to you. So check the facts.
Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, things they do well and things they do badly. A happy, successful life relies greatly on knowing what yours are and choosing your activities accordingly. Your profession should be something you enjoy and do well. Hobbies are more flexible. If you like the process, the quality of the end product is largely irrelevant. Write badly with pride! Knit ugly scarves! Jog like a turtle stampeding through peanut butter!
Live your life. Celebrate your accomplishments. Learn from your failures. And never let anyone make less of you.
Apply the same to other people. Compliment their accomplishments. Encourage their hobbies and curiosities. Discourage misbehavior, gently if possible, firmly if necessary. Help them learn from mistakes, if that input is welcome. When they put themselves down, disagree -- and cite counterexamples if at all possible.
A fact-based life is just more secure than one built on the shifting sands of social illusion.
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dancing_serpent
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Date: 2020-01-13 09:27 pm (UTC)I am a devout empiricist. I look for evidence. All feelings are valid, but not all feelings are accurate; they can lie to you. So check the facts.
Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, things they do well and things they do badly. A happy, successful life relies greatly on knowing what yours are and choosing your activities accordingly. Your profession should be something you enjoy and do well. Hobbies are more flexible. If you like the process, the quality of the end product is largely irrelevant. Write badly with pride! Knit ugly scarves! Jog like a turtle stampeding through peanut butter!
Live your life. Celebrate your accomplishments. Learn from your failures. And never let anyone make less of you.
Apply the same to other people. Compliment their accomplishments. Encourage their hobbies and curiosities. Discourage misbehavior, gently if possible, firmly if necessary. Help them learn from mistakes, if that input is welcome. When they put themselves down, disagree -- and cite counterexamples if at all possible.
A fact-based life is just more secure than one built on the shifting sands of social illusion.