>> So many people find that the prescribed version fits "close enough" that they don't realize gender is customizable <<
Reminds me of cars. (I've been trying since you posted this comment to expand that analogy into an actual piece on How Gender Identity Resembles Cars, but I don't think I want to whack that piece as it stands now with a big enough hammer to get the analogy to fit.) Almost everyone is content to find whatever they can on the lot and drive it off without tweaking it -- or, for that matter, even changing the look beyond slapping an occasional decal or bumper sticker on it.
Never mind if a hot rod, or a lowrider, or a kit car, or an art car, would be the thing that's actually right for them. Frequently, they don't care to deal with the scrutiny driving around in something like that brings.
>> and then they try to force everyone into that no matter how badly it fits. <<
Much like the derision and exclusion many people express at the owners of cars that are radically different from the norm. Me, I appreciate that someone chooses to express themselves that way, and values that expression to spend significant amounts of time and money on it. Beats all to heck the folks who give priority to something that expresses the image they want to project, as opposed to who they actually are.
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Re: Experience vs Performance
Date: 2019-01-05 06:40 pm (UTC)Reminds me of cars. (I've been trying since you posted this comment to expand that analogy into an actual piece on How Gender Identity Resembles Cars, but I don't think I want to whack that piece as it stands now with a big enough hammer to get the analogy to fit.) Almost everyone is content to find whatever they can on the lot and drive it off without tweaking it -- or, for that matter, even changing the look beyond slapping an occasional decal or bumper sticker on it.
Never mind if a hot rod, or a lowrider, or a kit car, or an art car, would be the thing that's actually right for them. Frequently, they don't care to deal with the scrutiny driving around in something like that brings.
>> and then they try to force everyone into that no matter how badly it fits. <<
Much like the derision and exclusion many people express at the owners of cars that are radically different from the norm. Me, I appreciate that someone chooses to express themselves that way, and values that expression to spend significant amounts of time and money on it. Beats all to heck the folks who give priority to something that expresses the image they want to project, as opposed to who they actually are.