People routinely bail on me for that exact reason, sometimes complaining that I'm a nag ... for reminding them that a thing needs to be done which they say they would do. There are a few people who are very reliable in my life, but only a few.
I have therefore found that, if I want to get something done, I have to do it myself. I prefer to do it myself, because asking for help that is promised but doesn't arrive just screws things up and makes it harder to get done -- and the probability of that happening is consistently higher than that of it getting done promptly. And I can't keep heaping everything on my very limited supply of reliable folks, I need them for critical things I can't do.
Another dissuasive factor for me is that, if I mention a problem, a lot of people feel entitled to do whatever they please to me and don't feel compelled to take "no" for an answer. No help is greatly preferable to boundary violations. This is a huge factor in Shiv's reluctance.
An irreducible factor is that I'm simply smarter than almost everyone else, to the point that my worst skills often exceed other people's best skills. (You've seen how bad I am at math? Somehow, 66% of people are worse, according to my test scores.) It's hard to see any point in asking for help when other people are routinely less able to solve problems than I am. You can see a glimmer of this in Shiv with his repetition of "Why can't I just do this the easy way?" when that way is either something nobody's thought of, or they can't do because it requires superpowers.
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Date: 2018-11-21 10:33 am (UTC)I have therefore found that, if I want to get something done, I have to do it myself. I prefer to do it myself, because asking for help that is promised but doesn't arrive just screws things up and makes it harder to get done -- and the probability of that happening is consistently higher than that of it getting done promptly. And I can't keep heaping everything on my very limited supply of reliable folks, I need them for critical things I can't do.
Another dissuasive factor for me is that, if I mention a problem, a lot of people feel entitled to do whatever they please to me and don't feel compelled to take "no" for an answer. No help is greatly preferable to boundary violations. This is a huge factor in Shiv's reluctance.
An irreducible factor is that I'm simply smarter than almost everyone else, to the point that my worst skills often exceed other people's best skills. (You've seen how bad I am at math? Somehow, 66% of people are worse, according to my test scores.) It's hard to see any point in asking for help when other people are routinely less able to solve problems than I am. You can see a glimmer of this in Shiv with his repetition of "Why can't I just do this the easy way?" when that way is either something nobody's thought of, or they can't do because it requires superpowers.