>> I know someone who struggled for years with the misconception that being smart meant you had to be smart about EVERYTHING, <<
I got a lot of that growing up. I just decided that anyone dumb enough to make that mistake in the face of conspicuous evidence to the contrary was too stupid to believe on any topic. So a lot of teachers got demoted to the status of talking furniture.
I reserve the right not to be good at everything. After all, everyone is better at some things than other things. I can do some stuff that other folks can't even figure out what I'm doing, let alone how. The fact that I suck at math is something that can be compensated for in other ways.
>> and that therefore not being a computer wiz meant that she was "stupid" even though she made it thru college and grad school, in a medical field, with outstanding grades.<<
Wow, that sucks.
>> Unsurprisingly, she is no longer on terms with her relatives, most of whom were either instrumental in messing her up or enablers for those who were doing it.<<
That's sad, but a wise decision. I'm very close with my parents, but the rest of the surviving family is mostly not a good fit. I regret that, but me wishing it were otherwise doesn't change anything.
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Date: 2018-05-13 10:15 pm (UTC)I got a lot of that growing up. I just decided that anyone dumb enough to make that mistake in the face of conspicuous evidence to the contrary was too stupid to believe on any topic. So a lot of teachers got demoted to the status of talking furniture.
I reserve the right not to be good at everything. After all, everyone is better at some things than other things. I can do some stuff that other folks can't even figure out what I'm doing, let alone how. The fact that I suck at math is something that can be compensated for in other ways.
>> and that therefore not being a computer wiz meant that she was "stupid" even though she made it thru college and grad school, in a medical field, with outstanding grades.<<
Wow, that sucks.
>> Unsurprisingly, she is no longer on terms with her relatives, most of whom were either instrumental in messing her up or enablers for those who were doing it.<<
That's sad, but a wise decision. I'm very close with my parents, but the rest of the surviving family is mostly not a good fit. I regret that, but me wishing it were otherwise doesn't change anything.