>> The closer the relationship, the harder it is to hide plurality, but the higher the risk if you disclose. <<
So wait then why don't plurals just not bother? Disclose immediately and you don't end up wasting time on somebody who's not worth it.
That's standard here. Maybe it's because everyone who uses this account is singlet and this isn't our life, that people don't care? Locally if it works it works, and if it doesn't it doesn't - and no one has a real stake in this world, so it's not a huge deal if one potential relationship doesn't work out. There's plenty more back in people's homes that'll be more fulfilling. Plurals seems to run contrary to a lot of things that non-plurals do. But it's still pretty confusing that they'd take so much time getting to know someone and building that relationship BEFORE dropping some truths that'll probably screw it up. You have to nip those misunderstandings in the bud early.
The people who've been told about body-sharing stuff get treated to that conversation early. Even as early as the time Roxy met some girl who wanted to be friends and ended up explaining within an hour of meeting. The only thing is that whoever's explaining *now* has to deal with "but this isn't plurality" because of this
>> most observers simply don't realize there's any other possibility <<
... that plurality's being framed as an umbrella term, so we have to deal with that early before it causes problems. Weirdly enough (or not) it's plurals who've failed to get it the most, and that's why people here try to stay far away from associates of that community - that's where the problems start. But that goes back the problem of incorrect ideas ingraining about people - why not just clear it up early?
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Date: 2017-12-18 01:34 am (UTC)So wait then why don't plurals just not bother? Disclose immediately and you don't end up wasting time on somebody who's not worth it.
That's standard here. Maybe it's because everyone who uses this account is singlet and this isn't our life, that people don't care? Locally if it works it works, and if it doesn't it doesn't - and no one has a real stake in this world, so it's not a huge deal if one potential relationship doesn't work out. There's plenty more back in people's homes that'll be more fulfilling.
Plurals seems to run contrary to a lot of things that non-plurals do. But it's still pretty confusing that they'd take so much time getting to know someone and building that relationship BEFORE dropping some truths that'll probably screw it up. You have to nip those misunderstandings in the bud early.
The people who've been told about body-sharing stuff get treated to that conversation early. Even as early as the time Roxy met some girl who wanted to be friends and ended up explaining within an hour of meeting. The only thing is that whoever's explaining *now* has to deal with "but this isn't plurality" because of this
>> most observers simply don't realize there's any other possibility <<
... that plurality's being framed as an umbrella term, so we have to deal with that early before it causes problems. Weirdly enough (or not) it's plurals who've failed to get it the most, and that's why people here try to stay far away from associates of that community - that's where the problems start. But that goes back the problem of incorrect ideas ingraining about people - why not just clear it up early?
- Johnny