>> That is a good point. I will have to think about ways to do that that are likely to work for me. <<
Some further thoughts ...
* It's best to take a trigger farm one little bit at a time, rather than trying to do a lot at once. Think of one thing you hated, and then how to change just that factor.
* Some things can be expensive, like changing the color theme of the kitchen. If your mother's was yellow, you might make yours rust, or whatever. Curtains don't cost too much, but repainting does. Other things are cheap or free. If your mother never did a category of food prep that you like -- such as making salads or decorating cakes -- then you can focus on that. Similarly, learning a new cuisine can help a lot just because so many triggers are scent-coded and having the kitchen smell different anchors you in the present. Playing music is different than people yelling, and pretty much everyone already has a music collection.
* Coming at it from another angle, if you can think of coping skill sets that work well for you, then imagine if any of those would work in the kitchen. Like if you enjoy play-putty, kneading bread dough or meatloaf is a close match.
>>Yeah. We're pretty solid at this point, it's just an added layer of stress - I'm really looking forward to May.<<
I know that feel. It's good to get back together after an absence.
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dancing_serpent
Re: Heh.
Date: 2017-12-05 12:12 am (UTC)Some further thoughts ...
* It's best to take a trigger farm one little bit at a time, rather than trying to do a lot at once. Think of one thing you hated, and then how to change just that factor.
* Some things can be expensive, like changing the color theme of the kitchen. If your mother's was yellow, you might make yours rust, or whatever. Curtains don't cost too much, but repainting does. Other things are cheap or free. If your mother never did a category of food prep that you like -- such as making salads or decorating cakes -- then you can focus on that. Similarly, learning a new cuisine can help a lot just because so many triggers are scent-coded and having the kitchen smell different anchors you in the present. Playing music is different than people yelling, and pretty much everyone already has a music collection.
* Coming at it from another angle, if you can think of coping skill sets that work well for you, then imagine if any of those would work in the kitchen. Like if you enjoy play-putty, kneading bread dough or meatloaf is a close match.
>>Yeah. We're pretty solid at this point, it's just an added layer of stress - I'm really looking forward to May.<<
I know that feel. It's good to get back together after an absence.