>> [If asexuality were a recognized orientation, when I first tried online dating] I would not have spent years trying to find a heterosexual partner, only to have each of those potential partners tell me: “Sorry, but there’s just no spark,” and break it off, just when I was beginning to really like them. <<
Likely so.
>>And even though learning that I'm Ace, has not led, yet, to finding my Queer Platonic Partner<<
Yeah, people haven't really thought about platonic orientations or how to find a permanent queerplatonic partner. But those orientations do exist, and I am becoming more intrigued by them.
>> ...And I can't help but wonder if the moral panic that blooms in popular media every now and then (like the fruiting bodies of fungi after a rain) about "Men addicted to porn, but 'unable to connect' to real women" are actually just talking about guys who are Ace. <<
Well, that depends. Does the guy really want a romantic, sexual relationship with someone else? If he does, then it's an obstacle. If he doesn't, then it's not. Perhaps he is ace. However, perhaps he is aromantic and enjoys sex but not all the expectations of women who chase after him demanding attention when all he wants is a nice uncomplicated fuck. Many aromantic men turn to pr0n because it is satisfying without the clinginess.
>> ...And if that were recognized as such, would "ace" still be (in terms of numbers) a 'minor" orientation? <<
Probably there is more of it than people realize. It also varies by locale. It is quite common in Japan, to the point that society is starting to complain about isolated young people who have zero interest in relationships.
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dancing_serpent
Re: Thoughts
Date: 2017-10-28 10:44 pm (UTC)Likely so.
>>And even though learning that I'm Ace, has not led, yet, to finding my Queer Platonic Partner<<
Yeah, people haven't really thought about platonic orientations or how to find a permanent queerplatonic partner. But those orientations do exist, and I am becoming more intrigued by them.
>> ...And I can't help but wonder if the moral panic that blooms in popular media every now and then (like the fruiting bodies of fungi after a rain) about "Men addicted to porn, but 'unable to connect' to real women" are actually just talking about guys who are Ace. <<
Well, that depends. Does the guy really want a romantic, sexual relationship with someone else? If he does, then it's an obstacle. If he doesn't, then it's not. Perhaps he is ace. However, perhaps he is aromantic and enjoys sex but not all the expectations of women who chase after him demanding attention when all he wants is a nice uncomplicated fuck. Many aromantic men turn to pr0n because it is satisfying without the clinginess.
>> ...And if that were recognized as such, would "ace" still be (in terms of numbers) a 'minor" orientation? <<
Probably there is more of it than people realize. It also varies by locale. It is quite common in Japan, to the point that society is starting to complain about isolated young people who have zero interest in relationships.