Wow, this is fabulous! And very intimate even as a reader -- it brings us into at least the corona of the relationship between Stan and Lawrence. On to specifics...
"Demisexual just means you need a close emotional tie before you start feeling erotic attraction," Lawrence explained.
The first person who told me about this (and I think this was before the word itself started being used, because they didn't use it) described it as "the emotions have to be engaged before the hormones will turn on". I'm not wired that way myself, but it made perfect sense to me. And even to me, the emotional connection is what defines the difference between lust and love; it's just that they can come in either order.
"He's sitting here with a pillow in his lap," Lawrence told their teacher.
Definitely ECR (the lighter kind) -- sympathy, amusement, and AWWWWW at the same time.
"Is Dad okay with that?" Stan said. "I'm going to go with yes," Lawrence said, tossing the strip of condoms onto the bed.
Now that's pure AWWWWW. Stuart is indeed a mensch.
"Stan?" said Lawrence, and waited for him to look up. "Trust me, you do not want your very first experience with a condom to have an audience."
Indeed! *giggle*
When I found it, I could feel -- I don't know, like it was weighing me or something. Then suddenly I knew how to make it work, and I could call for help.
Oh, now that's interesting! The fetish seems to have some Mjolnir-like qualities. I wonder if the bearer has to be an Unsullied Hero, or just has to be above some threshold of Worthiness. If it's the latter, that opens up some intriguing possibilities in the future development of this storyline.
"If your friend was cheating on their emfriend, do you think you should tell the other person?"
I was in this situation once, and in retrospect I'm not best pleased about how I handled it, but OTOH I was only in my 20s at the time; I know a lot more now. My solution was to ask the first person not to put me in the position of having to betray one or the other of them no matter what I did. It succeeded, but I think I put my own comfort ahead of doing the right thing.
"There was this cat," Lawrence said, the memory rising up to make a lump in his throat. "She wasn't really ours, but I fed her and played with her all the time. She got hit by a car. It was raining so hard that I don't think the driver even saw her."
Oh, there's the cat from my "first time" fic, and that's a much better situation than I was envisioning; I'll revise accordingly. Yes, I'm still working on that, though more in the breach than the observance...
Re money, they do have another option, though it's less secure than a steady job -- freelance work of some type. Lawrence could definitely tutor people in math and science! How good is Stan's English (beyond being a native speaker, I mean)? Freelance editing and proofreading pay pretty well, especially if you have a specialty. My partner's ex makes a very comfortable living out of editing law books; she has a law degree, but doesn't practice any more.
Eye gazing is another exercise for couples meditation. It has many benefits, such as increased bonding, but people who are unprepared or uncomfortable with intimacy may find it overwhelming.
This is something I warn people about when they go contradancing for the first time. The standard method for keeping from getting dizzy in a swing is to focus on your partner's eyes, and if you're not used to that it can really feel like everybody you dance with is trying to come on to you! It's not generally an issue in English/SCA dance because that doesn't have the swing, so it probably won't trip Shiv up. (Although there was that one time in a set of Mad Robin when we were basically trusting everyone else to stay out of the way...)
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Date: 2017-02-22 11:40 pm (UTC)"Demisexual just means you need
a close emotional tie before you
start feeling erotic attraction,"
Lawrence explained.
The first person who told me about this (and I think this was before the word itself started being used, because they didn't use it) described it as "the emotions have to be engaged before the hormones will turn on". I'm not wired that way myself, but it made perfect sense to me. And even to me, the emotional connection is what defines the difference between lust and love; it's just that they can come in either order.
"He's sitting here with a pillow
in his lap," Lawrence told their teacher.
Definitely ECR (the lighter kind) -- sympathy, amusement, and AWWWWW at the same time.
"Is Dad okay with that?" Stan said.
"I'm going to go with yes," Lawrence said,
tossing the strip of condoms onto the bed.
Now that's pure AWWWWW. Stuart is indeed a mensch.
"Stan?" said Lawrence, and
waited for him to look up.
"Trust me, you do not want
your very first experience with
a condom to have an audience."
Indeed! *giggle*
When I found it, I
could feel -- I don't know, like it was weighing
me or something. Then suddenly I knew how
to make it work, and I could call for help.
Oh, now that's interesting! The fetish seems to have some Mjolnir-like qualities. I wonder if the bearer has to be an Unsullied Hero, or just has to be above some threshold of Worthiness. If it's the latter, that opens up some intriguing possibilities in the future development of this storyline.
"If your friend was cheating on their emfriend,
do you think you should tell the other person?"
I was in this situation once, and in retrospect I'm not best pleased about how I handled it, but OTOH I was only in my 20s at the time; I know a lot more now. My solution was to ask the first person not to put me in the position of having to betray one or the other of them no matter what I did. It succeeded, but I think I put my own comfort ahead of doing the right thing.
"There was this cat," Lawrence said,
the memory rising up to make a lump in
his throat. "She wasn't really ours, but I
fed her and played with her all the time.
She got hit by a car. It was raining so hard
that I don't think the driver even saw her."
Oh, there's the cat from my "first time" fic, and that's a much better situation than I was envisioning; I'll revise accordingly. Yes, I'm still working on that, though more in the breach than the observance...
Re money, they do have another option, though it's less secure than a steady job -- freelance work of some type. Lawrence could definitely tutor people in math and science! How good is Stan's English (beyond being a native speaker, I mean)? Freelance editing and proofreading pay pretty well, especially if you have a specialty. My partner's ex makes a very comfortable living out of editing law books; she has a law degree, but doesn't practice any more.
Eye gazing is another exercise for couples meditation. It has many benefits, such as increased bonding, but people who are unprepared or uncomfortable with intimacy may find it overwhelming.
This is something I warn people about when they go contradancing for the first time. The standard method for keeping from getting dizzy in a swing is to focus on your partner's eyes, and if you're not used to that it can really feel like everybody you dance with is trying to come on to you! It's not generally an issue in English/SCA dance because that doesn't have the swing, so it probably won't trip Shiv up. (Although there was that one time in a set of Mad Robin when we were basically trusting everyone else to stay out of the way...)