>> Aww! Tony!! Don't think that Phil's gonna let those comments go, mister. <<
Phil isn't nagging him about it today, because today is already full of enough challenges without that. But Phil is now much more aware of just how bad Tony's self-talk really is. I based it on Tony's verbal abuse of his botfamily and a few occasions where his self-talk spills out loud in canon. Generally speaking, children learn what they hear, so if parents say cruel things, that turns into headtape, but it also comes out in how they speak to their own children or subordinates later. So challenging Tony's self-bullying will go on Phil's mental list alongside Bruce's similar issues.
>> He did well with the plan. The fact that he even implemented it shows just how good and caring he is, never mind his background. <<
Sooth. Tony is a problem-solver at heart. He things in tactical terms. He may not be great at emotions, but he is great at coping with messy situations.
>> Steve! With the camera. Such an adorable image. I think that needs to go on the list, in fact I think every scene with someone teaching Steve or Bucky something needs to go on the list. <<
I have added the camera squee to the list of photogenic scenes.
>> Tony actually reminded him without a snarky comment. That is lovely. It proves how far he's come. <<
:D All the way from Tony ragging on Steve for every technological stumble, to helping him but being snarky, to being gentle with him. Team = jelled. Go go Earth's mightiest handler!
>> And Phil's right, he's a brilliant leader when he applys himself. <<
Yay, Tony! *waves pompoms* Tony and Steve have different kinds of leadership skills. And Tony is the only Avenger who's actually good at any kind of public appearance.
>> This update was squishy and warm with underlying angst <<
There are several of those scenes in this story. "Memorial Day" is fundamentally about pushing boundaries when you have serious issues, but are determined to work on them instead of letting them limit you, and you have capable backup in case you overshoot.
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Re: Tony is an adorable, helpful, fluff-ball of jangst (joy/angst) :)
Date: 2015-06-30 08:18 pm (UTC)Phil isn't nagging him about it today, because today is already full of enough challenges without that. But Phil is now much more aware of just how bad Tony's self-talk really is. I based it on Tony's verbal abuse of his botfamily and a few occasions where his self-talk spills out loud in canon. Generally speaking, children learn what they hear, so if parents say cruel things, that turns into headtape, but it also comes out in how they speak to their own children or subordinates later. So challenging Tony's self-bullying will go on Phil's mental list alongside Bruce's similar issues.
>> He did well with the plan. The fact that he even implemented it shows just how good and caring he is, never mind his background. <<
Sooth. Tony is a problem-solver at heart. He things in tactical terms. He may not be great at emotions, but he is great at coping with messy situations.
>> Steve! With the camera. Such an adorable image. I think that needs to go on the list, in fact I think every scene with someone teaching Steve or Bucky something needs to go on the list. <<
I have added the camera squee to the list of photogenic scenes.
>> Tony actually reminded him without a snarky comment. That is lovely. It proves how far he's come. <<
:D All the way from Tony ragging on Steve for every technological stumble, to helping him but being snarky, to being gentle with him. Team = jelled. Go go Earth's mightiest handler!
>> And Phil's right, he's a brilliant leader when he applys himself. <<
Yay, Tony! *waves pompoms* Tony and Steve have different kinds of leadership skills. And Tony is the only Avenger who's actually good at any kind of public appearance.
>> This update was squishy and warm with underlying angst <<
There are several of those scenes in this story. "Memorial Day" is fundamentally about pushing boundaries when you have serious issues, but are determined to work on them instead of letting them limit you, and you have capable backup in case you overshoot.