Hard Things

[ysabetwordsmith]

Life is full of things which are hard or tedious or otherwise unpleasant that need doing anyhow. They help make the world go 'round, they improve skills, and they boost your sense of self-respect. But doing them still kinda sucks. It's all the more difficult to do those things when nobody appreciates it. Happily, blogging allows us to share our accomplishments and pat each other on the back.

What are some of the hard things you've done recently? What are some hard things you haven't gotten to yet, but need to do? Is there anything your online friends could do to make your hard things a little easier?

Comments

[we_are_spc]

Therapy. Because assault stuff we didn't get to in Indiana.

My therapist is win. SHe...actually explains things. The workings behind *why* thoughts are the way they are. For us, mechanics help. A lot.

It's why we like your articles. "Oh hey, the wetware is messed up? Here's why, here's how to fix it. Oh, that's not working this time? Well then try this."

T: Oh you're thinking like this? QWell ges what, that's normal (Insert cycle here) Counter it with (insert skills.)

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Or: "So you're doing this, what skills did you just use/are you using?"

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Still, I'ma need starbucks after this trip. (And I'll have it thanks to a gift card.)

-moving. Finances. Overdrawn again. I'm really worried that that's going to affect my being able to leave this situation. I'm still working on loss mitagation, and I'm also afraid that I won't get everything in in time to save things.

I'm behind on both HOA and mortgage by larg amounts.

But....the expectations here are just...unrealistic. I can't.

And I get this 'Hell no' feeling when I think about going back to Indiana. Which I know why. But if They don't want me back there, than They need to find me the money (Which is in the 4 figures) to keep me here, because at this point I feel I may *have* to go back there so FHA things can work. And it has to be *gguaranteed*. As much as I love IM; most of their events are in Cleveland, and I have no real way of tetting there when they pop up at short notice.

I do appreciate Their trying, but something needs to happen if Indiana isn't an option in *Their* minds.

Ug.

(I'm managing to not completely break, but let me tell you, this is taking both good and not so good coping skills.)

[readera]

Therapy is hard work. & Unrealistic expectations suck. :(

[we_are_spc]

yeah it is. And yeah they do.

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And I'm in a bad day. Brain wise. blurg. I did laundry yesterday, and hung it all up. Usually I don't mind dishes, but today I don't want to do them. At all.

-T~

[readera]

Ugh bad brain days suck. Sorry you are dealing with that. I'm not having a great one myself. I cant get my anxiety to stop screaming at me

[we_are_spc]

Mine's depression. I have no motivation.

All I want to do after I did the dishes and ate lunch was go back to bed. I'm drinking water instead, and it's helping some. So that's a thing.

-T~

[readera]

Oof. I get that. Hopefully you feel better soon. * offers internet brownies

[we_are_spc]

Now I want real ones. LOL

omnomnom!

-T~

[readera]

These are the ones I made recently. Not sure if you want them enough to do more dishes tho. 😄

https://sallysbakingaddiction.com/chewy-fudgy-homemade-brownies/

[we_are_spc]

Guuuh.

*needs a teleporter so I can get there when you make these next time.*

-T~

[readera]

Lol true. I would be happy you make you some, if you could get here. 💗💗

[we_are_spc]

You win.

I am now praying for an influx of funds as well; person who was supposed to pay me is late by a week, and now the overdrawing is happening again. :/

-T~

[readera]

😳 best wishes with that. Money troubles are stressful.

[we_are_spc]

<3

[readera]

💖

Thoughts

[ysabetwordsmith]

>> My therapist is win. SHe...actually explains things. The workings behind *why* thoughts are the way they are. For us, mechanics help. A lot.<<

Yay! I'm glad you found a therapist who really helps.

Yes, I find the mechanics useful also. It's hard to fix things if you don't know how they work. You need to know how they work and what goes wrong, in order to decide which repair to use or how to troubleshoot if it doesn't work.

>>It's why we like your articles. "Oh hey, the wetware is messed up? Here's why, here's how to fix it. Oh, that's not working this time? Well then try this."<<

I'm happy to help.

>> But....the expectations here are just...unrealistic. I can't. <<

Bummer.

>>And I get this 'Hell no' feeling when I think about going back to Indiana.<<

I agree, at least insofar as going back to your birth family. They might mean well, but they don't see to be doing a great job of helping you fledge successfully. :/

Re: Thoughts

[we_are_spc]

And a lot of them are back there. Granted the one I had there was pretty chill, but she's also a gossip to some degree. She's not the one I'd go to first if I didn't want the mother to know what was up.

Then...then I'd better start thinking hard for a job in Cuyahoga county, otherwise the 'hell no' may well be a likely possibility. Because being here isn't.

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At least not in the longterm.

-T~

Re: Thoughts

[ysabetwordsmith]

A vigorous job search seems prudent. Consider that even if you can't get your first choice of a job type, any job good enough to pay living expenses would get you in the right neighborhood, where it would then be much easier and cheaper to search for a better one there.

Re: Thoughts

[we_are_spc]

Yep.


Although, I've had three interviews (Two coming up this week are included in that) in my field since I started actively looking in Cuyahoga county. That's the most I've had since the job search started.

-T~