>> That makes this a fantastic topic at the beginning of your journey if you're too scared to interact with others. <<
One of the problems was feeling ignored. For some people it might not be only because they're scared; they might have a support network that is supposed to be there in theory, but isn't in practice. I and a lot of people I know are dealing with that one. It can suck when you're trying to reach out or be heard, but no one responds; I would think that's more common in long-distance and online relationships, because people can't coordinate easily.
Fortunately, if you're at the point where you can start processing, you can do the emotional work yourself. Avoids becoming dependent, too. Unfortunately a lot of people advise "Just ask for some help" in the problem of people not being there and feeling hurt by that. A lot of times that doesn't work; if everybody has busy schedules, at most you might expect somebody to stick around for the instance you ask for help, but not be there for ongoing support. In my experience, the only thing that's helped curb that hurt is going through a list of the people I had expected, on some level, to have something to say and listing reasons why they wouldn't be there. C and E don't go online often. G has anxiety. H has so many other things taking up energy that I can't expect them to be around. It redirects the negative feelings into logic and reasoning instead of leaving them to lash out or guilt trip for not being there, which is an abusive thing to do.
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One of the problems was feeling ignored. For some people it might not be only because they're scared; they might have a support network that is supposed to be there in theory, but isn't in practice. I and a lot of people I know are dealing with that one. It can suck when you're trying to reach out or be heard, but no one responds; I would think that's more common in long-distance and online relationships, because people can't coordinate easily.
Fortunately, if you're at the point where you can start processing, you can do the emotional work yourself. Avoids becoming dependent, too.
Unfortunately a lot of people advise "Just ask for some help" in the problem of people not being there and feeling hurt by that. A lot of times that doesn't work; if everybody has busy schedules, at most you might expect somebody to stick around for the instance you ask for help, but not be there for ongoing support. In my experience, the only thing that's helped curb that hurt is going through a list of the people I had expected, on some level, to have something to say and listing reasons why they wouldn't be there. C and E don't go online often. G has anxiety. H has so many other things taking up energy that I can't expect them to be around. It redirects the negative feelings into logic and reasoning instead of leaving them to lash out or guilt trip for not being there, which is an abusive thing to do.