>> I think we need to start a search for Uncle Phils of the world, <<

A bunch of readers have mentioned wanting someone like Uncle Phil.

>> because I am having -feels- here <<

*hugs*

>> and I just... having someone to let me and help me chill out for a while would be damned nice, especialy if they'd go to 1/50th the effort of Phil for the team-family. <<

Sooth. There are folks like that. I have known some pretty serious nurturers, including male ones. Best place to find them? The "friend zone."

Alternatively, if you're looking for people with a high investment in friends/family of choice, check the intentional community subculture. I've borrowed some ideas out of there in terms of how to make a household work.

I have to wonder, though, if anyone is reading this series and thinking, "Gee, I wish somebody would LET me take care of them."