I'm wondering... if that is the case primarily for those whose hair doesn't "fit" only? My hair definitely "fits" (societal standards of beauty -- as in, I've been told more than once I hit the genetic jackpot in that area) and I've never experienced any emotional baggage about it. Do you think this is from arrogance over never having to worry about it or not experiencing being an "outsider"?

Like being a thin person and not knowing how it can hurt to be fat, or something?