I have mixed feelings about the ordering in restaurants one.
Like, that can be really sweet, especially if it has been previously discussed whether it's okay to do that.
But, it can also be really controlling and creepy. Or somewhat infantalizing and dismissive. Which, in a work of fiction, can be interesting to play with of course. As can any dynamic where you show that somebody is creepy by having them do intimate things inappropriately.
But I feel like, of the things listed here, this one is especially problematic since it's something that a lot of people are actually never okay with a partner doing.
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Like, that can be really sweet, especially if it has been previously discussed whether it's okay to do that.
But, it can also be really controlling and creepy. Or somewhat infantalizing and dismissive. Which, in a work of fiction, can be interesting to play with of course. As can any dynamic where you show that somebody is creepy by having them do intimate things inappropriately.
But I feel like, of the things listed here, this one is especially problematic since it's something that a lot of people are actually never okay with a partner doing.