Oh, and don't ever just mail one of those to someone you think might be in an abusive relationship. That's a bit too much of a clue-by-four.
I couldn't find one that mentioned restaurants in particular, but deciding what someone eats and speaking for them can both be examples of "controlling behavior."
These are mostly outside descriptions. In my women's studies classes we had some lists that were "things he did to me." Picked the restaurant and the food. Always opened the door. Would hang up the phone if someone called he didn't want me to talk to. Stuff like that.
I frequently watch my villains for abusive behavior and highlight it.
>>I'm not familiar with that fandom, but I enjoyed the story nonetheless.<<
Re: Well...
There are many such lists; most crisis centers will have one. They're framed differently; some will give general terms and some will give examples. I've got some hardcopies from my college days but there are plenty online. Here are some examples:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm
http://www.turningpointservices.org/Domestic%20Violence%20-%20Warning%20Signs.htm
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/randy-susan-meyers/warning-signs-of-domestic_b_671321.html
http://www.health-first.org/hospitals_services/hrmc/trauma/warning_signs.cfm
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/warning_signs.html
Oh, and don't ever just mail one of those to someone you think might be in an abusive relationship. That's a bit too much of a clue-by-four.
I couldn't find one that mentioned restaurants in particular, but deciding what someone eats and speaking for them can both be examples of "controlling behavior."
These are mostly outside descriptions. In my women's studies classes we had some lists that were "things he did to me." Picked the restaurant and the food. Always opened the door. Would hang up the phone if someone called he didn't want me to talk to. Stuff like that.
I frequently watch my villains for abusive behavior and highlight it.
>>I'm not familiar with that fandom, but I enjoyed the story nonetheless.<<
Yay! I'm happy to hear that.