The author is female, and tends to write from her own experience. Yes, men can be victims of verbal abuse too. Yes, women can use verbal attacks too. Some of the examples in the book are same-sex arguments and/or have female attackers. *ponder* I can't recall ever hearing a male use the "If you REALLY loved me..." attack, although I've heard of them trying to get sex that way. It's usually a women's ploy. Anyhow, you're entitled to dislike the book if it rubs you the wrong way.

So far, this is easily the most effective book I've found on defusing verbal attacks, and the material generalizes well to different contexts. Have you found one that addresses the specific issue of male victims of verbal abuse? If so, give me a title or link and I'll take a look.