>>Wednesday may also be used to her family accommodating her in ways she doesn't really notice, until other people don't and relations break down as a result.<<

Possible.

>>Exactly. They're entirely about other people's expectations. Folks like Wednesday, who rarely match anyone else's expectations, are highly prone to say, "Fine, fuck you all, I'll stay alone where I can be myself."<<

One needs to be able to interface with other people enough to get one's needs met, and most people will try to nerf some emotional impulses to make loved ones feel loved/safe/whatever. But it doesn't mean that one's own needs should be inevitably suppressed!

Or in other words: my needs don't need to be triaged to the top of the list, but they do need to be on, and *stay* on the list.

>>Very true, although Wednesday doesn't seem to struggle with repression the way most people do with that approach.<<

Some people have a high threshold before their emotions actually express at a high enough level to be outwardly perceptible.

>>Yeah, that premise lasts a fast 5 seconds in Wednesday's presence. Or mine. Well, I'm not a woman, but people often think I am, and then are surprised and disappointed when I refuse to do or am glaringly bad at things I told them so. Or when I jump up and hit things.<<

I can do emotional labor, but I don't consider myself an expert.