Ah, but there are different kinds of being a jerk.
The "My wants are more important than your needs" kind are at best really annoying... and past childhood can be anooying to dangerous.
People with emotional damage... depends on the specific extent of damage, and if or how they're trying to compensate it so as not to hurt anyone.
Someone who lacks social skills and is willing to learn is usually okay...if you know they are lacking skills and are willing to learn.
So here we have an emotionally damaged grump, who is not lashing out aggressively, and who also has strong protector / provider impulses. So if the grumpiness and trauma (and bad luck jinx) aren't flat-out dealbreakers, he does have a ton of good qualities.
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Ah, but there are different kinds of being a jerk.
The "My wants are more important than your needs" kind are at best really annoying... and past childhood can be anooying to dangerous.
People with emotional damage... depends on the specific extent of damage, and if or how they're trying to compensate it so as not to hurt anyone.
Someone who lacks social skills and is willing to learn is usually okay...if you know they are lacking skills and are willing to learn.
So here we have an emotionally damaged grump, who is not lashing out aggressively, and who also has strong protector / provider impulses. So if the grumpiness and trauma (and bad luck jinx) aren't flat-out dealbreakers, he does have a ton of good qualities.