I'm with Shiv on the "angry voices" bit. There was this *tone* of voice that told me mom had lost it or was on the edge of losing it.

And that used to signal "freeze and try not to attract attention" at the same time my body wanted to go into full flight mode ("fight" was not even *considered* as an option).

I still react badly to that tone, but it's more of an internal cringe these days.

Ah triggers... sometimes useful, but mostly a pain.