If you go someplace with good social medicine, you should be able to get help with Mom... I know someone who used to work in that very profession. They would go in, help you do the hard parts, and somewhere between two and six hours later get to go _home_... which saved both your sanity and theirs. (Come to think of it, I know someone who does that here, now, in the States... but _that_ don't come cheap. In Britain it used to be free from NHS. G-ds only know what Jeremy Hunt has done to it now...)