>>Or come over and chat with her for an hour, so that I am not her sole source of amusement. Or better still, set a time, pick up her and her walker, and take her shopping or to lunch without me.<<

Those are excellent ideas. I will keep them in mind the next time someone asks how they can help a caregiver friend or relative. I haven't seen them on lists before. Probably because they are hard.

>> If it's someone else's schedule, she'll be ready in time. It's only with the family she runs on Mommy Standard Time.<<

0_o That's ... awful. I think I'll leave it at that.

>>I know no one can solve this. I know the only way through is one day at a time, and sometimes one breath at a time. But I have spent most of my adult life fighting to keep her from taking over my life...and now here we are.<<

Sounds like Hell on Earth.