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Life is full of things which are hard or tedious or otherwise unpleasant that need doing anyhow. They help make the world go 'round, they improve skills, and they boost your sense of self-respect. But doing them still kinda sucks. It's all the more difficult to do those things when nobody appreciates it. Happily, blogging allows us to share our accomplishments and pat each other on the back.

What are some of the hard things you've done recently? What are some hard things you haven't gotten to yet, but need to do? Is there anything your online friends could do to make your hard things a little easier?

decluttering

Date: 2019-02-13 01:43 pm (UTC)
gingicat: woman in a green dress and cloak holding a rose, looking up at snow falling down on her (Default)
From: [personal profile] gingicat
Quoting from my own post last week:

[personal profile] gingicat posted: Clutter

All over the house, I have tons of stuff earmarked to give away that is just... sitting there. (Mostly clothes.) Minoanmiss is feeling guilty about having neat bookcases filled with things that she is deservedly keeping, and she hears me whine about clutter, and she thinks it’s her fault.

While I do whine about having so many kitchen utensils that there isn’t room to put anything away, that really isn’t the biggest problem!

No, the biggest problem is PAPER. MY PAPER. One of the reasons it hasn’t gone anywhere is that a large percentage needs to be shredded. (Which is either expensive to take to a place that does it for me, or time-consuming and painfully loud. But there’s definitely some stuff that can’t leave the house without shredding it first.) But, mostly, it just HURTS to go through it. There’s so much historical pain in this paperwork. A lot of it represents places where I fell apart crying and stopped sorting, and a lot of that crying comes from “this is where that got buried? but it was so important!” or “I never acted on this thing and not acting led to horrible things happening!”

So the paper just piles up, and up, and up... there’s a decade of paper in some of these piles.

Professional organizers make it worse. Do not suggest professional organizers if you want me to be functional.

Do not suggest “a little bit at a time” or other strategies, either. Strategies are not the problem.

If you want to help, transporting things already sorted right the fuck out of the house would be best. Junk paper (shredded or otherwise) going to a recycling center because we don’t have curbside, clothes and toys to appropriate donation sites, stuff being mailed to friends, etc.

Oh, and being able to be two floors up from the rest of the family while I still have emotional energy left would be good too. I don’t know how to get that.

Re: decluttering

Date: 2019-02-13 03:44 pm (UTC)
fuzzyred: Me wearing my fuzzy red bathrobe. (Default)
From: [personal profile] fuzzyred
That sounds terribly difficult. I can't do anything to make it better or easier but I can offer you a hug if you'd like one. Or a cookie. And encouragement. You can do it!

Cooking

Date: 2019-02-13 03:53 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] fuzzyred
I've been having a really hard time trying to figure out what to make for dinner, which leads to not very healthy eating. I actually picked out a dish and made it Monday, which should last me most of the week.

The hard part for me is that it's just me I'm cooking for. That means I usually have tons of leftovers and it's a lot of effort that I can't always find. Trying to decide what to make is hard too. So many choices and limited skills.

If I had a few choices of easy to make things, preferably healthy and easy to feeeze/store, that would be immensely helpful. I'm trying to compile that lost myself, but it's slow going.

Re: Cooking

Date: 2019-02-13 04:28 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] redsixwing
Oof. That does get really difficult. Congrats on cooking something with lots of leftovers!

Are you looking for suggestions, commiseration, encouragement?

Re: Cooking

Date: 2019-02-13 06:51 pm (UTC)
fuzzyred: Me wearing my fuzzy red bathrobe. (Default)
From: [personal profile] fuzzyred
All are welcome, especially sugestions. A lot of effort is saved if I don't need to think of things to cook.

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Date: 2019-02-13 07:37 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] kaixo
10 of Our Best Tips for Meal Planning for One with recipes

weekly meal planning

Meal Planning For One – Week 1 week one



For the past four months I've been living with vegans, and have weaned the wife off bread (she's sensitve to gluten). Chick peas, tinned legumes (beans, peas, etc) are easy to have and warm through. Mix that with some frozen vegetables, and if you need protein, go with eggs (poached or boiled eggs don't have to be 'breakfast foods') or a bit of tofu. If I had chicken, that tends to last for a couple of days. Don't be afraid to scramble eggs and add vegetables to them. Or if you cook rice, cook enough for two days and you can have it fried with vegetables and eggs for the next day.

Tinned tomatoes are good for sauces, and you can use sauces over two days.

Re: Cooking

Date: 2019-02-13 08:53 pm (UTC)
fuzzyred: Me wearing my fuzzy red bathrobe. (Default)
From: [personal profile] fuzzyred
Thanks for the links, they were helpful! I'll have to remember to come back and look at them on the weekend, when I'm ready to plan my next set of meals.

I never quite know what to do with beans and such, though sometimes I do cook them just by them selves. I've taken to buying dried instead of canned though, because the cans are usually to large for me and the dried bags are cheaper.

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Date: 2019-02-17 05:41 pm (UTC)
fuzzyred: Me wearing my fuzzy red bathrobe. (Default)
From: [personal profile] fuzzyred
Very helpful resources, I like omelettes but for some reason, they didn't register as being an acceptable dinner food. I will have to keep them in mind for the future. The Duck Muffins also look interesting, totally not what I was expecting from the name, but still intriguing.

Dishes are not my friend, so the inside grill might wait until I have some other recipes under my belt first. It's the size of the sink that drives me bonkers most. Many pots, pans and other baking ware don't fit in a standard sink nicely so trying to rinse things off *cough*cookie sheets*cough* is a giant pain in the rear.

The recipe reducing links were also useful. I may come back to the recipe converter if I ever need to shrink a complicated recipe. Math and I are usually friends, but sometimes it eats a lot of brain power.

Re: Cooking

Date: 2019-02-13 10:33 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] dialecticdreamer
Name three favorite foods. Name three things ALWAYS in your pantry. Name the most complicated thing you want to put together. "Dump it in the crock pot" is a perfectly valid answer. I'll see if I can help give you a successful start.

Re: Cooking

Date: 2019-02-17 05:48 pm (UTC)
fuzzyred: Me wearing my fuzzy red bathrobe. (Default)
From: [personal profile] fuzzyred
Favourites: chicken, cheese, pickles. Staples: Peanut butter, rice, bread. Most complicated thing: anything requiring more than 4 pots or pans to prepare is probably more complicated than I want to get most days. Thank you!

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Date: 2019-02-13 08:07 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] redsixwing
Work stress, relationship stress, and anxiety are interfacing in a predictably bad way. I'm spending a lot of time feeling sad and lonely. Even though I tightened up my self-care, it needs another notch (which means I need to figure out what said notch /is/) or .. possibly I'm reaching a point of diminishing returns.

I read this epic Twitter thread about Challenger, rule-bending, and energy budgets, and it got me thinking. Results are not yet solid.

...are there any resources out there on communicating with someone when you routinely misread their nonverbal cues?

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Carrie Newcomer

Date: 2019-02-13 09:05 pm (UTC)
From: [personal profile] seramarias
I really like this song for those sorts of moments.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PRGnftH_g4I

Hard month

Date: 2019-02-13 10:40 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] dialecticdreamer
February is hard. The whole month is a mess, and there were lots of details I won't go into on a blog. The sum total was: a day which included listening to someone on the bus complain about her abusive partner over her yellphone for an hour--the whole ride-- made me nauseous and agitated... and it was a relatively GOOD day, especially since New Year's.

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(no subject)

Date: 2019-02-13 11:00 pm (UTC)
From: [personal profile] ari_the_dodecahedron
The Opportunity Rover is dead. That’s left me discombobulated all day. But I managed to write it a lullaby to put it to sleep this one last time, so I suppose at least there’s that. I grew up with the rovers so it’s hard to watch, almost like a cherished pet.

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Date: 2019-02-14 01:03 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] mama_kestrel
Sometime shortly (this weekend or next, depending on the weather), I need to take my mom down to Indianapolis to see her brother. He had bypass surgery, which went very well, and his heart is functioning perfectly. The rest of him, however, isn't recovering. It's been 2 1/2 months. So really, Mom will be going to say goodbye...without saying so explicitly. My uncle probably knows. My aunt won't hear of it. She doesn't want my mom to come, but my cousin says come anyway, because Big Sister has a right to say goodbye. So aside from the usual stress of travelling with my mom, there will be all the family angst and strained relationships. I expect my mediation and emotional smoothing skills to be tested to their limits. To say I'm not looking forward to it would be an epic understatement. But it needs to happen, and the consequences of not doing it are, to my mind, unacceptable. I saw what it did to my grandfather when he didn't get to say goodbye to his brother. I won't let that happen to my mom if I can help it.

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Date: 2019-02-19 12:39 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] technoshaman
*HUGS* having knowingly said goodbye to a relative that way, yeah, it needs to happen. *HUGS* You know we're here for you, as you've been here for us.

Since there's nobody else here who would've known, I'll say this... looking back now, both my ex and I, who are of a somewhat similar Circular bent, knew we'd seen her for the last time when we drove away, we didn't realise that _she_ knew too until later... I don't know why she chose the when - it was some months later - but she chose to go quietly in the night in her own bed, rather than in a hospital bed in pain. Funny thing, she did leave a clue that even my very Muggle aunt didn't miss; that's how we knew.

None of us ever said a word in judgement, even though my ex and I were the only non-Muggles involved.

Once in a great while, Southerners will bend the rules to do what's _right_.

(no subject)

Date: 2019-02-14 03:44 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] raze
I broke three ribs recently and I'm really struggling with the physical limitations it has given me, especially because I'm in prep mode for a big transport at the end of the month. I am used to be a scrappy little thing that is always game for some heavy lifting and physical exertion, but now I'm on a weight limit for lifting, and when I don't listen to doctor's orders the resulting pain is quite severe and keeps me up at night. It should take about six weeks to recover. I'm only about two weeks in an getting very impatient! And I keep overdoing things because I'll feel fine when adequately drugged on painkillers and muscle relaxers, but when they wear off I feel awful. Just, ungh.

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Date: 2019-02-18 09:54 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] lilly_c
Organising to go home for my auntie's funeral (date to be confirmed). She passed away yesterday and my cousins have asked my mum, stepdad and other auntie to assist with going to the post mortem and making funeral arrangements. This sucks, my auntie pretty much brought me up I feel like I've also lost a parent :( </3 Unfortunately there isn't much I can do on my end with living so far away :(

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